爱好

大家好，欢迎回到《随心所欲》节目。我是主持人艾玛·张伯伦。刚才那个更专业的开场白怎么样？你们喜欢吗？

Hi, everybody. Welcome back to Anything Goes. I'm Emma Chamberlain, your host. How was that more professional intro? Do we like it?

还是讨厌它？你们怎么看？嗨各位，我要坦白说，我现在做播客遇到瓶颈了。

Do we hate it? What do we think? Hi, everybody. I'm gonna be honest with you guys. I am struggling with the pod.

我今天录了两期节目，结果两期都让我很不满意就全废了。后来又录了半期，录着录着突然觉得'我讨厌这个'。不知道我到底怎么了，特别奇怪。但其实我还是很兴奋的。

I recorded two episodes for today and I hated both of them and I scrapped them. And then I just recorded half of an episode and I stopped recording and I was like, I hate it. I don't know what's going on with me. It's so weird. But I really am excited.

抱歉，今早早餐吃了很多辣酱，现在一直打嗝反酸特别难受。但我们会坚持下去克服这个的。不过我喜欢诚实——你看，诚实其实是把双刃剑。

Sorry. I had a lot of hot sauce this morning on my breakfast and now I keep burping it up and it hurts. But we persevere and we will get through it. But I like to be honest. See, being honest is a double edged sword.

最近我在个人生活和社交媒体上都深刻体会到这点。我诚实到甚至可能伤害自己的程度，因为什么事都想说出来。我想毫无保留，想上来就告诉你们我录了三次都失败了。

And I've been realizing this recently in my personal life and on social media. I'm almost so honest to a point where it might even harm me. Because I just wanna talk about everything. I wanna be, like, open about everything. I wanna come on here and tell you that I tried to record three times and it didn't work.

但有时候我会想，这样会不会显得我很消极或爱发牢骚？因为我连糟糕时刻都要坦白。这样看起来是在抱怨吗？还是说只是诚实宣泄？我不确定。这种状态也延续到了我的私人生活。

But part of me wonders if that makes me seem negative or makes me seem whiny because I'm honest about even the bad moments. Does it just seem like I'm complaining? Or does it seem like I'm just being honest and venting? I don't know. And that that extends into my personal life.

我什么话题都想聊，包括那些别人通常会憋在心里的事——因为他们觉得'这个还是自己消化吧，不想影响别人'。但我偏偏就要说出来。最近我开始怀疑自己是不是太坦率了，总在想：我是不是过度分享了？

I like to talk about anything and everything. And even the shit that people kinda bottle up because they're like, well, I'm gonna keep this one to myself because I don't wanna, like, weigh down others. But I, like, get into it anyway. And I wonder I I think recently I've been kinda insecure about my openness. I'm like, am I too open?

不知道。这就是我最近在思考的问题。我觉得这就是为什么我废掉了两期节目——当时我对某些事发表了非常直白的观点，回听时就觉得'过了，艾玛，太过了'。

I don't know. So that's something I'm I'm thinking about right now. And I think that's why I I scrapped two episodes because I was giving opinions on things and being really honest. And I listened back and I was like, too much, Emma. Too much.

该收敛点，有些事得烂在肚子里懂吗？但现阶段很难做到，因为现在人们很容易钻牛角尖，动不动就形成极端观点——毕竟大家现在都太闲了。话说我刚从湾区回来，是回去过感恩节的。

Step back. Keep some shit to yourself, you know? But I think that right now it's hard because it's so easy to fixate on things right now and, like, form really strong opinions right now because we have so much time on our hands. But anyway, I just got home from the Bay Area. I went home for Thanksgiving.

住在爸爸家——我已经很久没在那儿过夜了。感觉特别棒，因为你看：在洛杉矶，我觉得这里的一切都...虽然这么说不好听但这里确实很脏乱，不过我主要指人情方面。

And I stayed at my dad's house, which I haven't done in a really long time. And it was kind of awesome because here's why. In LA, I feel like everything is so it's very gross and dirty here. Don't get me wrong. But I more mean people wise.

每个人都打扮得光鲜亮丽。很多人不仅漂亮还特别精致，懂我意思吗？就像很多人去超市都要系着古驰腰带那种感觉。明白我说的吗？我在这种环境里待久了，这几乎成了我脑海中的现实认知。

Everybody's really put together. A lot of people are very beautiful and very put together and just you know what I'm saying? Like, lot of people are just very, very much Gucci belt to the grocery store vibes. You know what I'm saying? And I've been around that for so long that that kinda became my reality in my head.

后来我回到家乡，看到更普通的小镇模样，就是那种普通小镇。有些人早上连头发都没梳。这种感觉太棒了，身处其中真的很棒。我让自己稍微放纵了一下，不是贬义的放纵，而是积极的放松。

And then when I went home and saw a little bit more of a normal town, like, was just a normal town. It's like some people didn't brush their hair that morning. It was amazing. It was amazing to be around. And I really kind of let myself go a little bit, not in a bad way, but in a good way.

比如我他妈都不洗澡——闭嘴我知道你们要吐槽什么。我甚至不想让你们拿这个开涮，因为谁都有这种情况懂吗？我连腿毛都不用刮，也完全不化妆。

I was like, I wasn't fucking showering, which shut up before you even get into that. I don't even want you guys to roast me for that because sometimes it happens. Okay? I, like, didn't have to shave my legs. I wasn't wearing makeup ever.

同一套衣服穿整个星期。我带了超大行李箱结果只穿一套衣服。太爽了。就一件连帽衫，真的就一件连帽衫。

I wasn't wearing the same clothes the whole week. I packed a whole massive suitcase and wore one outfit. It was amazing. I wore one hoodie. I I wore one hoodie.

体验这种简单生活真的很美好。这趟旅行让我领悟很多，其中一点是：我需要找到生活中纯粹让我兴奋的事，不需要任何具体目标。举个例子，学校里无论参加读书会、数学社、运动队还是选修高级科学课，每件事都有明确目的。

And it was nice to kind of experience something a little bit more simple. And I feel like I learned a lot on the trip. And and one of the things I realized was I need to find something in my life that excites me that has no real goal or end point in sight. I'll give you a little bit of an example. In school, every single thing that you do at school, whether you're in like a book club or a math club or you're doing a sport or you're in like a really special science class, Every single thing that you do at school has an end goal in sight.

比如——老用比如这个词，我现在简直掉进例子的套娃里了——如果你参加数学社，大概率不是真喜欢数学，而是知道这对大学申请有帮助。再比如参加运动队可能是为了奖学金。

For example, again, I keep going for example. I'm fucking in an inception of four examples right now. The the like, if you're in, like, the math club, you're probably not in the math club because you genuinely enjoy the math club. You're probably in the math club because you know that having that on your college application is gonna give you a better chance of getting into the school you want. Let's say you're doing a sport.

选修高难度科学课可能是为大学做准备，参加暑期特训班最终也是为了上大学找好工作赚钱。人们很难找到完全不为经济回报的爱好。

Maybe you want a scholarship. Let's say you're taking a really hard science class that's probably for college in some way. Let's say you're taking special summer camp classes. It's probably for college in some way so that you can go to college and get a better job which eventually makes you money. Like, it's hard for people to find a hobby or something that they like to do that doesn't lead to financial gain at some point.

前几天我在想，当初做YouTube和社交媒体纯粹是觉得好玩，但后来开始赚钱后，某种程度上就失去了'纯粹因为热爱而做'的那种魅力。

I was thinking about this the other day. I'm like, you know, I used to do YouTube for fun and all that, and social media for fun and all of that. But eventually, I started making money from it. And then it was like, you know, it lost that charm for me in a way of, I'm just doing this because I love it. Because now I'm doing it because I love it, but also because this is now my job.

我爸跟我说：你需要找到生活中不需要精通、单纯享受的事。这件事不需要带来金钱收益，不需要物质回报，仅仅因为你喜欢做。听完我觉得，这建议真让人压力山大——简直像布置家庭作业：'去找个爱好吧'，说得轻巧。

And my dad was telling me, he was like, you need to find something that you like in your life that's that's just that you don't even need to get good at, that you just enjoy. Doesn't have there's no need to get good at it. You need to find something in your life that you wanna do because you enjoy doing it, that doesn't ever need to make you money, doesn't ever need to benefit you in some sort of materialistic way, something that you like to do. And he told me that, and I was like, that's an exhausting piece of advice to give somebody. Like, what a fucking homework assignment.

对我来说培养爱好特别难，因为我根本不喜欢做什么。我的生活就是工作、完成生存必需事项、睡觉，日复一日循环。

Being like, okay, find a hobby that you like. That's not easy to do. It's hard to just find something that you like to do. For me, I have a really hard time with hobbies because I don't like doing anything. I I just work and do the necessary things to survive, and then sleep, and then again and again.

而且我没有什么单纯喜欢做的事。因为对我来说，那感觉像是浪费时间，虽然这种想法不对。但我的大脑就是这么运作的——它会想：为什么要捡起一个该死的无用爱好？这有什么意义？

And I don't have things that I just enjoy doing. Because to me, it feels like a waste of time, which is not true. But that's how my brain works. My brain's like, why pick up a fucking useless hobby? What's the point of it?

我的思维几乎被设定成：如果这件事不能帮助我生存，那为什么要做？但在我回家的旅途中，我突然有了顿悟。因为父亲在我房间放了套鼓，我开始试着打鼓。每次经过鼓组时——比如去厨房倒水回来——我就会敲上五分钟再回床上。有时出门买晨间咖啡前，我也会打会儿鼓再去。

My mind is almost wired in the way of if it's not gonna benefit me in surviving, then why do it? But when I was on my trip home, I kind of had a realization because I started playing drums because my dad has a drum set in my room at home. And I started kinda playing the drums and, you know, the drum set is in my room so every time I would walk by it, like I'd go get water from the kitchen. When I'd come back, I would play drums for like five minutes and then I'd get back into bed. And sometimes before I'd leave the house, if I was going to get my morning coffee, I'd play drums for a little bit and then go and get my coffee.

它就摆在我眼前，不知为何我总是会反复去敲打。当我学会新鼓点时，真的感受到了快乐。因为打鼓就像解谜——每个新节奏都需要身体重新适应，对我来说尤其如此（毕竟我是新手）。有时候你的身体会比大脑先记住节奏，这很奇妙。

It was something that like, it was right in front of me. And so for some reason, just kept going back to it and and doing it. And I actually felt happiness when I would figure out figure out a new drumbeat. Because when you're playing drums, it's like you're playing and then you if you wanna, like, learn a new beat, you kinda have to, like, retrain yourself for every new drumbeat, at least for me because I'm a very much beginner. So it's like you have to take your mind it's almost like solving a puzzle because it's about rhythm in your body.

但当我搞懂新鼓点时，真的在分泌血清素。这就像解谜游戏，有趣又治愈，让我感觉超棒。所以我打算在洛杉矶的住处买套鼓，纯粹为了自己玩得开心。

It'll click in your body before it clicks in your mind almost sometimes. It's so weird. But I genuinely was releasing serotonin when I was fucking figuring out new drum beats and shit. And it was like a puzzle, and it was fun, and it made me feel good, And it was therapeutic and I loved it. So I'm buying a drum set for my place in LA and I wanna get kinda good at it for me.

不是为了有天能组乐队，不是想成为职业鼓手，甚至不是非要打得有多好。我根本不在乎这些。当然希望能打好，但这不是目的——我打鼓纯粹因为享受击鼓时的快感，享受完成某个节奏时的成就感。这是件没有压力、只需为自己努力的事。

Not because I wanna be in a fucking band one day, not because I wanna be a professional drummer one day, not because I even wanna be that good at it. I don't even care. I mean, I would like to be good at it, but, like, that's not why I'm doing it. I'm doing it because I genuinely enjoy it because I genuinely enjoy how it feels to play drums, and it makes me feel happy when I when I do it and when I accomplish something. And it's something for me to work hard at without any consequences.

就像上高难度科学课时你会拼命学习，因为挂科会影响GPA和升学。但要是没打出某个鼓点？完全没损失。反正我又不在乐队，这就是零压力的快乐。

It's like when you're in a really hard science class, you work really hard at that because if you fail, then that could negatively impact your GPA, which could negative negatively impact getting into college. If I, like, can't figure out a drumbeat, there's no it's there's no harm in it. It's fine. Like, I'm not in a band. I just there's no reason for like, it's just low pressure fun.

为自己而学让我充满自信。我还买了缝纫机，虽然短期内做不出衣服，但想重拾这个爱好。青春期时我放弃了所有童年爱好——就像那个该死的卫生棉条广告说的，女性总会莫名放弃年轻时的爱好。

And I'm doing it for myself, which gives me an element of confidence. I also bought a sewing machine because I also wanna try sewing clothes at some point. I'm not gonna be able to sew clothes for a long time but I wanna start sewing because I've I used to love sewing but then I kinda gave it up because I just like didn't care anymore. I went through puberty and all of the hobbies I had as a kid just went away. As they always say in like the fucking Tampax commercial, they're like, you know, they like said something about how like women give up on their hobbies when they're young for some reason.

虽然不记得广告细节，但这个概念一直留在脑海。我也不确定是否认同，但确实放弃过很多爱好。现在想重拾缝纫，毕竟我太他妈爱衣服了。

I don't remember that commercial but it did stick in my head and I did just reference it. So And I don't know if I even agree with that commercial. But anyway, I did. I like kinda gave up on a lot of my hobbies when I was younger. And but like I wanna get back into sewing because I feel like sewing I mean, love fuck I love clothes.

我爱设计服装，闲暇时总在脑子里构思款式。如果能亲手做出来该多有趣？光是想想就让我兴奋。

I love designing clothes. I love coming up with ideas for clothes, whatever in my like free time in my head. It's something I enjoy in general. So how fun would it be if I like tried to make stuff, you know? That sounds exciting to me.

所以鼓组和缝纫机都在路上了。这两个新爱好让我无比期待——不为任何人，只为自己。它们会让我的生活更有目标感和乐趣，你懂吗？

So I am getting a sewing machine as well. So I'm gonna have two new hobbies, drum set and sewing machine are on the way to my house. And I'm really excited about it. Not for anybody else but for just me. I think it'll help give my life some purpose and some excitement, you know?

因为有时候，当你只是工作、完成那些愚蠢的小任务然后睡觉，每天早晨醒来都会很艰难。这样下去会变得很压抑。我是说，看看电影《闪灵》里那句台词：只工作不玩耍，聪明孩子也变傻。

Because sometimes it's hard to wake up every morning when you just work and do your silly little tasks and then go to bed. There there's it's it gets depressing. I mean, look at the movie, The Shining. There's a quote in there. All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.

我同意。只工作不玩耍会让人变得迟钝。为自己做些有趣的小事才是生活的意义所在。这也很重要，因为这件事只关乎你自己。就是你和那些有趣又傻气的小爱好。

I agree. All work and no play makes you dull. Doing silly little fun things for yourself is what life's all about. And it's also important because it involves nobody else but you. It's just you and your fun silly little hobby.

就是这样。不需要牵扯其他人。当然，你可能会因此结识朋友，那就更棒了。但归根结底，爱好是属于自己的事。就像当我坐在架子鼓前，或者开始缝纫时，那完全是我自己在做的事情。

That's it. There's nobody else involved. Obviously, you can meet people through it which is even better. But at the end of the day, having hobbies is a you thing. Like when I'm when I sit down at the drum set or when I start sewing things, like that's gonna be something that I'm doing and only I'm doing it.

没有别人参与其中。我这么做是因为感觉很好，能让我释放血清素。这种感觉充满力量。这一切都是为了我自己。

Like, nobody else is doing it. And I'm doing it because it feels good and it releases serotonin for me. There's something so empowering about that. It's all about me. It's all for me.

我为我自己而做。我享受它是因为我喜欢。当我在这方面进步时，也会让我感觉良好。所以这是个信号：如果你一直在寻找爱好，试着去发现些什么。

I do it for me. I enjoy it because I enjoy it. And when I improve at it, that's gonna make me feel good too. So this is your sign. If you feel like you've been looking for a hobby, try to find something.

但别着急，因为我也曾长期觉得自己需要培养爱好，却花了很久才弄清楚对什么感兴趣。这需要时间。对自己耐心点，不可能一夜之间就找到。当我爸爸建议我培养爱好时，我还叫他闭嘴。

But don't rush yourself because I've been figuring I've been feeling like I needed a hobby for so long, and it took me so long to figure out what things I was excited about picking up. It takes time. So be patient with yourself. You're not gonna find it overnight. When my dad gave me the advice to find hobbies, I was like, shut up.

闭嘴。我一直拖延，迟迟不行动。但最终我活成了之前提到的那句台词：只工作不玩耍，杰克变成了一个非常乏味的人。我的生活就是那样。

Shut up. And I kept pushing it off and not doing it and not doing it and not doing it. But it got to a point where the quote that I mentioned earlier, all work and no play makes Jack a very dull boy. That is what my life became. It was like, I was literally that.

只工作不玩耍，艾玛变成了个呆子。这就是他妈的真实感受。没有爱好的我现在感觉如此乏味。当年父亲的建议其实是在播下种子，他不是要我当天就去找个爱好。

All work and no play makes Emma a dull boy. That's how I fucking felt. I felt so I feel so dull right now without any hobbies. When my dad gave me that advice, he was planting a seed. He wasn't telling me I needed to go out and find a hobby that day.

他说：听着，这可能对你有帮助。所以只要留意那些能激发你兴趣的事物。最终会找到的，虽然花了很长时间。像打鼓和缝纫这么随机的事，但我对这两件事充满热情。去找那个纯粹因为热爱而吸引你的爱好吧。

He was like, listen, this is something that could help you. So just keep an eye out for something that piques your interest. And it happened eventually, but it took a long time to find it. Like drums and sewing, it's so random, but I feel excited about those two things and I'm very excited to get into it. So try to find your hobby that speaks to you that has no fucking other motive besides that you love it, period.

下一个话题。清单上接下来是什么？我们来聊聊节日礼物吧。好吗？

Next topic. What's next? What's next on the list? Let's talk holiday gifting. Okay?

我讨厌这个。我太讨厌了。天啊。我这辈子最讨厌的事情莫过于送礼物和收礼物。我恨透了。

I hate it. I hate it so much. Oh my God. There's nothing I hate more in my life than giving and receiving gifts. I hate it.

但我要给你们分享针对不同类型人群的礼物指南，或许能给你们一些灵感。首先，我们来说说爸爸们。就我个人而言，我老爸有很多爱好。我嫉妒他。他会冲浪。

But I'm gonna give you guys my gift guide for different types of people and maybe it'll help give you guys some inspo. So number one, we have dads. Personally, my dad has a lot of hobbies. I'm jealous of him. He surfs.

他还会画画。搞音乐。玩摄影。说真的我恨他。我多希望自己能像他那样。

He fucking paints. He makes music. He takes photographs. Like, I hate him. I wish that I was like him.

我从没见过爱好这么多的男人。如果你爸有某项爱好，比如高尔夫之类的，最简单的让他兴奋的方法就是买些小资情调的东西——倒不一定要多奢侈，就是那种他们自己舍不得买但能让爱好更有趣的玩意儿。比如说你爸打高尔夫，你可以给他买些特别搞笑或酷炫的球座，就是插地上那种小玩意儿。是叫这个吧？

He I've never met a guy with more hobbies. If your dad has a hobby, say it's golf, whatever, the easiest way to excite your dad is to get them something bougie, not even necessarily bougie, but like something kind of like that they wouldn't buy for themselves for their hobby, but that like would make it more fun. For example, let's say your dad plays golf. If you get him, you know, really funny, like, or cool golf tees, like, little tees that you stick in the ground. Is that what it's called?

我对高尔夫一窍不通。但你可以给他买那种超搞笑的迷彩球座，或者特别炫的亮蓝色款。对，他自己肯定不会买这种华而不实的东西，但打球时用上会很有趣。要是我爸的话，可以送他件印着酷炫图案的潜水服。

I don't know anything about golf. But you get him, like, really funny fucking camo ones or something or, like, really cool bright blue ones. Yeah. He wouldn't probably buy that for himself because it's unnecessary but it's gonna be a fun little thing that he'll have when he's playing golf. Or for my dad, like getting him a really cool wetsuit with a cool design on it.

虽然我觉得冲浪者会评判那些穿着疯狂潜水服的同行，因为这有点尴尬，显得不够酷。或者可能是一块超酷的冲浪板，虽然价格不菲，但你懂我意思吧，就是为他们爱好准备的东西。

Although I think that surfers judge other surfers that have like crazy wet suits because it's like embarrassing. It's like not the cool thing to do. But Or like a really cool surfboard maybe. That's kind of expensive but you get what I'm saying. Like something for their hobby.

如果你父亲碰巧没什么爱好，那就给他买个背部按摩器什么的。如果他工作很辛苦，很可能需要这个。或者如果他喜欢烹饪，新平底锅也行。我以前没意识到成年人会喜欢这些，但现在我深有体会。我妈妈现在来洛杉矶看我，她刚告诉我——

And if your dad for some reason doesn't have hobbies, get him some sort of massage thing for his back. He probably needs it if he's working really hard. Or if your dad likes to cook, new pans. This is something that I didn't realize adults appreciated, but I really appreciate it. I my mom just told me she because she's visiting me in LA right now.

她说'你需要新炒锅了，你的锅又脏又糊，全是烧焦的油渍'。我就回'好吧，没必要这么怼我吧，不过行吧'。

She was like, you need new cooking pans. Your pans are disgusting and burnt. They burnt oil all over them. And I was like, okay, like you don't need to come at me like that. But okay.

结果她给我买了新锅，现在作为成年人我才明白这有多棒。Green Pan这个牌子的锅真的很好，我觉得它们有独到之处。比如不粘涂层但不像其他不粘锅那么有毒，材质应该更安全。听着，你现在可是在跟一个生活白痴对话。

And she bought me new pans and now that I'm an adult, I realize how amazing it is. The brand Green Pan has really great pans and I think there's something good about them. Like I don't know, like they're like nonstick but it's like not as toxic as other nonstick pans. I'm pretty sure like they're made out of better stuff. Listen, you're talking to I'm literally an infant.

虽然我其实不太懂这些。但像新炖锅或煎锅，比如高级铸铁煎锅什么的，爱做饭的爸爸们绝对会为这玩意儿疯狂，妈妈们其实也一样喜欢。说到妈妈们...这个要看情况，妈妈类型太多了，很难一概而论。

Don't know what I'm talking about. But like getting new pots or pans like a really nice cast iron skillet or something, fucking dads love that shit if they cook or even moms love that shit too. Moving on to moms. Moms love well, it depends. There's so many different types of moms, it's tough.

但我觉得妈妈们真的很喜欢这样。不过关于妈妈们有件事很棘手。这很难，因为妈妈们喜欢那些真正精致漂亮的衣物之类的东西，但你给她们买了她们却从来不穿。所以这就是为什么我对送妈妈礼物很头疼。

But I think moms really like okay. Here's the thing about moms though. It's hard. It's hard because moms love, like, really nice, like, clothing items and stuff like that, but then you get them for them and they never wear it. So that's why I'm stumped by moms.

我听过太多这样的故事：比如我给妈妈买了个超贵的包包但她从来不用，或者买了高档拖鞋可她还在穿十年前从Target买的那双。这很有趣，感觉妈妈们都有这种倾向。所以或许别走这个路线。

Like, I've heard this story from so many people where it's like, oh, I bought my mom like a really expensive purse and she never uses it. Or like, I bought my mom really expensive slippers and she still wears her like ones that she got ten years ago, you know, from Target. Like she doesn't like, it's funny. I feel like moms tend to be like that. So maybe don't go that route.

哦，你知道我觉得妈妈们会喜欢什么吗？我妈超爱水晶。虽然听起来很随机好笑，但她就是喜欢漂亮的水晶。网上能找到价格实惠又特别好看的水晶，妈妈们超吃这套。

Oh, you know what I think moms would really like? My mom loves crystals. I know that that's so funny, like, and random, but my mom really likes cool crystals. You can find really cool crystals for pretty affordable online that are, like, really pretty and nice. Moms love that shit.

她们可以把水晶摆在家里。我觉得这是给妈妈的绝佳礼物。特别是那些带有美好能量寓意的那种，比如这个能带来正能量，那个能让人心平气和之类的，会显得很贴心。

And they can, like, put them around the house. I think that's a great gift for a mom. And, like, ones that have cute little good energy behind like, the ones that, like, you know, they have, like, a explanation, like, oh, one this will bring positivity or oh, this one will bring peace of mind. Like, you know, stuff like that. That could be kinda nice.

所以可以考虑送你妈妈水晶，或者我知道我妈超爱睡衣。任何款式的睡衣套装都不需要很贵，但绝对不会出错。天啊我超爱收到睡衣当礼物。

So maybe some crystals for your mom or maybe I know my mom loves pj's. So like any type of pj set doesn't need to be expensive, but pj set of sorts, you can't go wrong with that. I love that. I I think oh my god. I love when people give me pj's.

这让我开始喜欢收礼物了。因为我原本讨厌收礼物的过程——要假装'天啊太感谢了'这种反应让我浑身难受。

That's like, that makes me like receiving gifts. Because I hate receiving gifts. Because I hate the whole process of being like, oh my god, thank you. Like, ugh. Makes me sick.

我讨厌这样。但如果有人送我睡衣，我会真心实意地兴奋到根本不用装——虽然我从不伪装情绪，我对任何礼物都心怀感激。但总觉得必须给出完美反应，我会过度夸张地表现开心，就怕送礼的人觉得被怠慢。

I hate it. But if somebody gave me p j's, I'd be so stoked that I wouldn't even have to like fake any well, it's not like I fake see, the thing is, I don't ever fake emotions. Like, I'm so grateful for any gift that I receive. But it's like, I always feel this pressure to have the perfect reaction. Like, I almost overly animate my response to receiving a gift so that they feel appreciated because I don't ever want somebody to feel underappreciated for giving me a gift.

所以我会压力很大地表演：'天啊！我正想买薄荷味沐浴露！太感谢了！'虽然很做作，但我不想让人觉得我不在乎。这就是为什么我讨厌收礼。但收到睡衣的话，我的兴奋尖叫绝对发自真心。

So I feel this pressure to be so animated about it. I'm like, oh my god. I've been looking for a a body wash that was peppermint. Oh my god. Thank you.

所以送睡衣绝对错不了。接下来聊聊送朋友礼物，我觉得简单多了。毕竟你们有共同梗，围绕内部梗来选礼超有趣。

Like, that's so unnecessary, but like, I don't want anybody to feel like I don't care. So I will overdo it. And that's why I hate it. But if somebody gave me PJs, I would genuinely be that stoked and that loud and that animated about it just because I love PJs. So I feel like giving people PJs, you can't go wrong.

就这样。现在说说送朋友礼物。我觉得朋友之间容易多了，因为你们有共同梗。我觉得用内部梗来选礼物特别有意思。

So that's that. Let's talk about for your friends. I feel like for friends it's so much easier. Like, because you know, you guys have inside jokes. I think always playing off the inside jokes for friends is so fun.

比如，假设你们有个关于Snuggie睡毯或烤面包机的内部梗，那就围绕这个发挥。我对待朋友一贯如此，这样最有趣。能逗大家开心，其乐融融。

Like, let's say you have an inside joke about Snuggies or, like, about a toaster. Like, play into that. That's always my route with friends. It's the most fun. It gets a good laugh and everybody's happy.

我觉得这是最佳策略。至于恋人礼物...天啊别提了，我恨这个。这简直是我的终极噩梦。

I feel like that's the way to go. As for significant others, oh my god. Don't even get me started. I hate it. This is this is my biggest nightmare.

不知为何我总爱给恋人买衣服。这压力超大，明明知道很难选却偏要为难自己。要是对方不喜欢，光想到约会对象讨厌我送的衣服就尴尬到窒息，真的会反胃。至今我都不知道该怎么解决这个问题。

I don't know why, but I I tend to buy my significant other clothing for some reason. But that's so stressful, and I don't know why I put myself through that because it's really hard. Like, if they don't like it, that's just gonna make like, it makes me cringe thinking about getting somebody that you're dating a piece of clothing and then them hating it. Like, that literally makes me sick. I I'm still stumped to this day about how to do it.

给女朋友建议的话...老天我其实也不懂。但珠宝首饰应该不会出错吧？我觉得没人会讨厌珠宝。比如对方正想提升穿搭品味时，送些俏皮有趣的饰品准没错。

I would say for your girlfriend, let's say you well, God, I don't know. I think jewelry I think jewelry you can't go wrong for whoever you're dating. Like, I feel like anybody likes jewelry. I think it's let's say you, you know, you're dating somebody who's trying to, like, spice up their style a little bit, getting them some really cool, playful, fun jewelry. You can't go wrong.

而且珠宝还有纪念意义，很特别。我觉得送能象征你们关系的礼物也很好，比如裱框的合照，或者手工画作——可以在Etsy找人把你们画成插画，虽然可能有点甜腻又带点诡异...取决于你们交往多久了。

Also, it, like, has then a sentimental value, which is special. I also think that getting your significant other something like that relates to your relationship whether that's like a cute framed photo of you or like maybe a fun like handmade painting like find something on Etsy to like paint a painting of you guys. That could be kinda cute but also kinda creepy maybe. Depends on how long you've been talking. I don't know.

兄弟我根本不该聊恋人送礼话题，我自己也一头雾水。总之祝今年送礼好运吧，真的太折磨人了。不过你知道今年我真正期待什么吗？

Dude, I shouldn't have even gotten into the relationship gifting because I'm just as lost as anybody else. I don't know. Good luck gift giving this year. It's really awful. But do you know what I'm actually excited about this year?

今年大家都在强调支持小商家过圣诞的重要性。我超爱这个理念——或者说整个节日季都适用。虽然我只过圣诞节，但现在是上网发掘酷炫小店的绝佳时机。

Everybody's been talking about how it's so important to shop small businesses for Christmas this year. And I love that idea. I love that idea because or the holidays in general. I just celebrate Christmas, so I shouldn't be speaking for just me. But find this is like a fun time to like go online and try to find some cool small businesses and shop those.

超赞的对吧？甚至可以去复古店或二手店淘礼物，既环保又有趣。比如给妈妈在旧货店淘个复古盘子，多有意思啊是不是？

Like, I love that. Or even like going to vintage stores or thrifting gifts, like that could be even fun too. It's like sustainable because, you know, you're not adding to the waste of whatever. Going to like goodwill and like finding a cool plate for your mom, like that's kind of fun. Right?

或是给恋人兄弟姐妹找台复古唱片机，像寻宝一样刺激。今年不妨试试在二手店淘宝，既有寻宝乐趣又能支持独立小店。

Or like finding a cool like vintage record player for like your significant other or your sibling or something like that's exciting. It's like treasure hunting. So that could be a fun way to do it this year is to like think about buying used items from the thrift store like a treasure hunt. That's fun. But also finding cool small businesses.

今年他妈就是个礼物寻宝游戏！比在亚马逊上随便下单有意思多了——'哦伟大的亚马逊我该买啥呢'这种无聊流程见鬼去吧！

It's like a fucking treasure hunt for gifts this year. And it'll make it more fun. It's not like just you're on the Amazon you're not like on Amazon. Like, okay, could fucking buy anything here. Like, am I gonna do?

比如，假设你发现一家小企业，可能是一位创作超酷自画像的艺术家。那种真正具有艺术感的人物肖像。你可以为家人每人定制一幅他们可以挂起来的酷炫肖像，或者是他们宠物的画像。这比在亚马逊上买一把该死的懒人沙发强多了，懂吗？我也不知道。

Like, let's say you find a a small business, maybe an artist who makes like really cool self portraits. Like really like artistic portraits of people. You could go and get for your family everybody like a cool portrait of themselves that they could hang up or maybe of their pet or something. And like that's better than buying like a fucking lazy boy chair off Amazon, you know? I don't know.

这其中有种特别的意义。但祝大家好运。这就是我今年尝试的思考方式。好了，我们刚聊完圣诞节，现在自然就...

There's something special about that. But good luck everybody. That's the way I'm trying to think of it this year. Okay. So we just talked about Christmas and now it's natural.

抱歉，咖啡时间到了。天啊，弗兰基，别闹。好吧。

Sorry. Coffee break. Oh my god. Frankie, stop. Okay.

弗兰基是我可爱的小...天啊。让我先聊聊我的猫弗兰基。太有趣了，她特别害羞，只喜欢我，这简直是对我自尊心的终极宠爱。

Frankie's my sweet little oh my god. Let's just talk about my cat Frankie for a second. I it's so funny. She's so shy. Like, she only likes me, and it's the best fucking thing for my ego ever.

因为她只亲近我。只和我待在一起。不让别人抱她，不让别人摸她。只有我可以。

Because she only likes me. She only hangs out with me. She doesn't let anybody else pick her up. She doesn't let anybody else pet her. Only me.

简直不可思议。大家都讨厌她。都说她是只小贱猫。但她却毫无理由地深爱着我。

It's incredible. Everybody hates her. Everybody hates her. They're like, she's such a little bitch. But she literally loves me so much for no reason.

我想可能是因为我收养了她。她可能把我当成了妈妈，这让我很感动。她只认我，这感觉太棒了。现在她就在录音室——其实就是我的衣柜里——舔着我的手发出呼噜声，而我在想：你对别人可从不这样，这让我特别满足。

I mean, I guess it's because I adopted her. Like, she maybe assumes that I'm her mommy, which I love. But she only likes me, and it makes me feel so good. Like, she's just in the recording studio with me, which is my closet. And she's just licking my hand and purring and I'm like, you aren't like this with anybody else and that is it makes me feel so good.

我爱死她了。话说回来，谈谈新年计划吧。我从不制定这些，讨厌得很，觉得特别蠢。

I love her. Anyway, let's talk about New Year's resolutions. I never make them. I hate them. I think they're so stupid.

但今年我打算尝试几个。或许我们都可以试试...我只是不喜欢因为年份更迭就强行给自己定目标。我更喜欢全年随时制定目标。这话听起来特别招人烦，但确实如此。我觉得年初列一堆目标很不现实。

But this year, I'm gonna try to think of a few. And maybe we can all try this year to do I just don't like to like I don't like to create a goal for myself just because there's like a year just because the year changes. Like, I like to try to make goals for myself all year round. Because I'm, that's the most annoying thing anybody could possibly say, and I just said it, but it's kind of true. I try to, like, you know because I feel like it it's unrealistic to, like, make all these goals in the beginning of the year.

不过最近在TikTok上看到有人展示从2020年初至今完成新年计划的历程，突然觉得自己错过了什么。所以现在我也想试试看。我的新年计划第一条：学会用架子鼓演奏至少10首我最爱的歌。

Like, I don't know. But I've also been seeing people on TikTok making New Year's resolution or, like, they're completing their New Year's resolutions and they're, like, talking about it, like, from the beginning of 2020 to now, like, showing their, like, journey with one of their New Year's resolutions and I kinda felt left out and had FOMO about it. So now I want to try to have one and see what happens. So here's my New Year's resolution. Number one, I want to learn how to play at least 10 of my favorite songs on the drums.

这看起来不太难但实际上确实很难。不过可能会很有趣。第二点，我想学会给自己缝制一套完整的衣服，衬衫和裤子。我还想停止忽视自己的成就，好吗？我从未认可过自己的成就，对自己的成就已经麻木了。

That doesn't seem too hard but actually it does. But that could be fun. Number two, I wanna learn how to I wanna sew myself a full outfit, shirt and pants. I also wanna stop not acknowledging my own accomplishments, okay? I never acknowledged my own accomplishments and I am numb to my own accomplishments.

所以我的新年决心是开始为自己感到骄傲。我不知道这是否可能，但我会尝试。最后但同样重要的是，我想从内心找到自信和认可，而不是依赖外界。谢谢，这就是我的。是的。

So my goal in New Year's resolution is to start feeling proud of myself. I don't know if that's possible but I will try. And last but not least, I want to find confidence and validation within myself and not outside of myself. Thank you, that's mine. Yeah.

这些是我的新年决心。我要把它们写在日记里，然后一年后再回来看发生了什么，看看是否实现了。只有天知道。好吧。

Those are my new year's resolutions. I'm gonna write them down in a journal and then I'm gonna come back in a year and see what happened and see what happens. Like, see if it if I did if it came true. God only knows. Okay.

我准备好回答问题了，因为说实话，我的大脑一片空白，伙计们。我讨厌这样。我不明白为什么，但我的大脑就是空的。我没有新的想法。实际上，我已经分享了足够多的想法。

I'm ready for questions because to be honest, my brain is empty, guys. Like I hate it. I don't get why but my brain is empty. I I like no new thoughts. Actually, I just shared enough thoughts.

我觉得我已经做得够多了。我很好。我们可以继续回答问题。第一个问题是谈谈你的名人暗恋对象。好吧。

I feel like I did enough. I am fine. We can move on to questions. The first question is talk about your celebrity crushes. Okay.

我有过很多，我想把它们都列出来。因为我觉得这很有趣。好吧，我的第一个暗恋对象是Naked Brothers乐队的那对兄弟。如果你还记得那是什么，上帝保佑你。那是我第一次对名人产生好感。

I've had so many and I kind of wanna list all of them. Because I think it's funny. Okay, so the first crush I ever had was the brothers in the Naked Brothers band. If you remember what that is, God bless you. That was my first ever crush, I think, celebrity crush.

我有过很多。我从四岁起就对男孩疯狂着迷。我不明白为什么我会这样。我生来就是这样，总是有暗恋对象。总是这样。

I've had so many. I've been so boy crazy since I was a fucking, like, literal four year old. Like, I don't understand why I'm like that. I've always I was born just being like always having a crush. Like always.

我就是这样。我真的很喜欢这样。所以是的。好吧。这一切始于Naked Brothers乐队的那对兄弟。

I'm like that. I'm so like that. So yeah. Okay. It started with the brothers from the Naked Brothers band.

然后是乔纳斯兄弟。我不知道我和男孩乐队之间发生了什么，但显然那是我的菜。乔纳斯兄弟，特别是尼克·乔纳斯，有时会在乔和尼克之间摇摆不定，但通常总是尼克。而现在我觉得我可能会更喜欢乔，但无所谓了。那可能是我的第二个暗恋对象。

Then it went to the Jonas Brothers. I don't know what's going on with me and boy bands, but apparently that was my my thing. The Jonas Brothers, specifically Nick Jonas, sometimes would kinda go back and forth between Joe and Nick, but always usually Nick. Whereas now I feel like I'd have more of a crush on Joe but whatever. That was one probably my second crush.

我还暗恋过《小屁孩日记》电影中扮演主角的演员。好吧？这个其实没什么道理。他看起来就像个——我也不知道当时为什么会喜欢他。那个真的很奇怪。

I also had a crush on the actor that played the main character in the diary of a wimpy kid movie. Okay? That one doesn't really make much sense. He just looks like a I don't really know what was going on there with that crush. That one was weird.

我是说，他确实——我是说，他小时候确实很可爱，但这真的太随机了。我那时对他痴迷得不行，真的痴迷。我也不知道为什么。比如我谷歌的时候，完全说不通。

I mean, he's definitely I mean, he was definitely a cute kid, but it just is so fucking random. I was obsessed with him. Like, obsessed. I I don't know why. Like, I when I Google like, doesn't make sense.

就像，现在回头看，他看起来就是个普通小孩——我搞不懂我十岁时的脑子在想什么。他确实可爱，这我承认。但偏偏对他这么痴迷真的太随机了。我那时痴迷到不健康的程度。

Like, he just when I look back, I'm like, he looks like a normal he I don't know what my, like, 10 year old brain was thinking. Like, he just he's cute. I mean, sure. But it's just, like, it's so it's such a random person to be as obsessed with I was so obsessed with him. It was, like, unhealthy.

我至今不明白怎么会这样。哦对了还有科尔·斯普罗斯，我断断续续喜欢了他很久。看《小查与寇弟的顶级生活》时就迷上他，后来看《河谷镇》第一季时这种迷恋又复活了，莫名其妙觉得他特别帅。

I don't understand how or why that happened. Oh, then it was Cole Sprouse. Cole Sprouse was, like, an on and off again crush for me for a very long time. I had a crush on him in Suite Life of Zack and Cody, but then my crush for him kind of got reborn when I watched season one of Riverdale. I, like, for some reason, just thought he was so cute.

就这样陷进去了，那段时间特别迷他。我还疯狂迷恋过《怪奇物语》的乔·基瑞，根本走不出来，那种迷恋简直让我生理性疼痛。

So that happened. That was a huge crush for me. I also had a huge crush on Joe Keery from stranger things. I couldn't get over that one. That one like physically hurt my body.

就是那种——我也不知道为什么如此痴迷。我甚至试着在推特上@他或者发私信，说什么

Like that one like I don't know why I was so obsessed with him. I used to try to like tweet at him I think or like DM him on Twitter and be like, need to marry you. Like I have to. But he has a girlfriend. So, you know, that was one that I think it's better that that didn't go anywhere.

必须嫁给你，非你不可。不过他有女朋友了，所以你知道的，幸好没下文。

But that was a really I was like, I was determined. I was like, I don't know why, but I, like, I love this man. Like, I I am in love this is the man of my dream. Like, I don't know what I think it was honestly his hair in the show. Like, the fucking mullet thing.

但那时候我真的下定决心，不知道为什么就觉得'我爱这个男人，这就是我的梦中情人'。说实话我觉得是他在剧里的发型，那个该死的鲻鱼头。

Like, that just, like, got me got my brain go moving like crazy. I just like no. Not like that. But like, you get what I'm saying? Like, it just got it really struck a chord for me.

直接让我脑子疯狂转动——不是那种转动！你懂我意思吧？就是特别戳中我。

Like, I don't it was the hair for me. Who else? I mean, obviously, I think my most recent crush was Timothee Chalamet for so long. And I just couldn't get over that one. I was obsessed with him.

对我来说就是发型的问题。还有谁？啊对了，最近几年我长期痴迷蒂莫西·柴勒梅德，完全走不出来，特别上头。

But I've also been obsessed with him. I was obsessed with him from like solidly 2017 to like 2019. Solid. Maybe even 2016. And like, I like feel like I actually had a crush on him.

其实我早就迷上他了，从2017到2019年整整两年，甚至可能2016年就开始了。而且我觉得我是最早一批粉他的人——虽然并不是，但就有这种先到者的优越感，就像听Tame Impala的人都要争谁是最早粉丝一样懂吧？

Like, I feel like I was one of the first ones. Like, I feel like I found him. And I didn't, but I feel like I was there first. Like, it's like, I have the whole like, you know, everybody like who listens to Tame Impala, you know, is every who's first. Right?

总是这种争论。就像，哦我在2015年发现的他们。哦我2014年就发现了。哦我2016年发现的。但你知道，感觉每个人都在为此争吵不休。

It's always that argument. It's like, well I found them in 2015. Well I found them in 2014. Well I found them in 2016. But I'm, you know, it's like everybody's always arguing about it.

对吧？我对提莫西·查拉梅就是这种感觉。我心想，你们这些人现在才明白吗？我2016年就迷上他了。你们当时去哪了？

Right? That's how I feel about Timothee Chalamet. I'm like, I you guys you guys are just figuring this out now. I had a crush on him literally in 2016. So where were you guys?

不过我已经差不多走出来了。2020年的时候，嗯，我觉得自己已经放下了。还有我看了《搏击俱乐部》，是叫这个名字吧？《搏击俱乐部》？应该是。

Anyway. But I kinda got over that one. 2020, I mean, yeah, I think I just got over that one. Also, I watched Fight Club, is that what that movie's called, Fight Club? I think so.

看电影时我莫名其妙全程都在迷恋布拉德·皮特。我当时就想，哇哦。嗯。就是这样。

I randomly got a crush on Brad Pitt for the whole duration of the movie. I was like, wow. Yeah. Yeah. That was that.

我还迷恋过谁呢？让我想想。我短暂地有过四十五分钟奇怪的罗斯·林奇阶段，特别随机。只持续了四十五分钟，但天啊，我完全忘记了我童年的重要部分——MagCon。

But who else have I ever had a crush on? Let me try to think. Let me try to think. I had a little weird Ross Lynch phase for about forty five minutes, which is random. It only lasted about forty five minutes, but oh my god, I totally forgot about a massive part of my childhood, MagCon.

我的天。当时超迷他们。我以为自己会嫁给纳什·格里尔和卡梅隆·达拉斯。就像...我之前说的《怪奇物语》里的乔·基瑞？那都不算数了。

Oh my god. Had a huge crush on them. I thought Nash Greer and Cameron Dallas were I thought I was gonna marry them. Like, I genuinely was like like, you know what I said about Joe Keery earlier from stranger things? Forget it.

我12、3岁的时候，真心以为自己会成为卡梅隆·达拉斯的妻子。我和朋友疯狂迷恋MagCon到...天啊这太尴尬了...

I thought I was gonna I thought I was gonna be Cameron Dallas's wife when I was, like, 13, 12. 12 or 13. I was fully prepared to be Cameron Dallas's wife. And I mean, like my friends and I were so obsessed with MadCon to a point we made a oh my god. This is so fucking embarrassing.

要命。我们当时还拍了个Vine视频——那时候Vine还很火。视频里我们...现在找不到了。

Oh my god. Oh my god. Oh my god. We made a Vine when Vine was a thing. That was like, all of us so I don't have it anymore.

但真为我初中朋友们感到抱歉。如果你们听到这段...我知道我们都不想提这事。太羞耻了但我还是要说——我们拍了Vine，所有人对着镜头说「当MagCon男孩发新照片时」，然后录下自己尖叫着坐在椅子上盯着屏幕发疯的样子。

But I feel so bad for my middle school friends. Sorry guys if you guys ever hear this. I know that we don't wanna talk about this story. It's really embarrassing, but I'm telling it anyway. We made a vine and we all like got we all stood in front of the camera and said, when MagCon boys post a new picture and then we all filmed ourselves screaming and sitting in a chair, like looking at the screen and screaming.

青春期的荷尔蒙太可怕了。真的...不知道我们怎么了，青春期像砖头一样砸懵了我们。那时候我们...简直了...太危险了。

Middle school hormones are crazy. That's all I'm gonna say. Like, I don't know what I puberty hit us all like a fucking ton of bricks, baby. I mean, we were just what the fuck? We were like cute, like I it was dangerous.

我是说，想到那些内容可能还挂在网上就让我害怕。最糟的是，我好像见过卡梅隆·达拉斯一次，见面时我尴尬得要死，因为满脑子都在想那个画面——我他妈根本不知道该怎么和这个男人说话。要是他知道那些让我反胃的事...

I mean, I don't like the fact that those things like are possibly even on the internet still like terrifies me. I like I and the worst part is too, I like I've I think I've met Cameron Dallas before once and like I just was so embarrassed when I met him because I was like thinking in the back of my head about that moment and I was like, I don't know how I'm supposed to. Like, I don't know how I'm supposed to, like, even speak to this man. Like, I'm so fucking mortified. Like, if only he knew what, like, makes me sick.

这些是我能记得的明星暗恋对象。但其实有过超多，我这辈子从没连续一周不迷上哪个男生。永远都有固定迷恋对象，永远在单箭头。

Those are all the celebrity crushes I can remember. But I've had so many. I've always I don't think I've gone a week without having a crush on my on a boy in my whole life. Like, I've I always have a boy on lock. I always got a crush on one.

除非正在约会某人，那我就会迷上约会对象。但为什么我这样？这正常吗？你们告诉我，你们也会一直喜欢谁吗？

And then if I'm and unless I'm dating somebody, then I have a crush on who I'm dating. But why am I like that? Is that normal? You guys tell me. Do you guys always have crushes on somebody?

我从来没有空窗期。因为对我来说就是这样：现实中没有心动对象？那就找个明星来情感寄托。

I never don't. Because for me, here's what it is. Okay. I don't have a crush on a real person in real life. Time to find a celebrity to get emotionally attached to.

上次单身时我直接沉迷提莫西·查拉梅。真不该在网上说这些...看几个采访就觉得像在约会，简直病态。

Like, the last time I was single, I literally just fixated on Timothee Chalamet. I should not be talking about this on the Internet. I okay. And I'd like watch an interview here and there, and like, I'd be like, wow, it's almost like I'm on a date. I literally it's sick.

有人问为什么保持恋情隐私。其实录过整期视频但失败了，简单说：我反感同龄人把恋爱当流量工具。

I don't it makes me sick. Somebody asked why keep romantic relationships private. I actually tried to film a whole episode on this, so I'll be very brief. It because it didn't work when I tried to record an episode about it. But here's my problem with public relationships.

特别反感同龄人公开恋情——年长者更成熟不会互相利用。但我们这个年纪，太多人拿恋爱博点击量，这种互相利用让我恶心。

It's so like, it bothers me how public relationships in my age group specifically, I think that with older people, it tends to be different because they're a lot more mature. They're less likely to exploit one another. But relationships in my age group, there's so much exploitation of the relationship for clicks and for views and all of that. That rubs me the wrong way. And there's a lot of using one another for, you know, some sort of gain.

这种关系很病态：当你们靠恋情获利时，即使关系不好也会将就。经济收益会影响判断，很难做出理性健康的选择。

And that to me is so toxic because, I mean, there's so many endless reasons. But one of the biggest ones being like, if you're exploiting your relationship on the internet and it's benefiting you in some way or your significant other in some way, you're more likely to stay in that relationship even if it's not good. You're more likely to settle in that relationship even it's even if it's not good because you're gaining from it. So you're not gonna be handling the relationship in a in a normal healthy way because you're gonna be making your decision based on the fact that, you know, you're financially gaining from it. Like, you're not gonna make rational decisions or smart decisions as it's gonna be harder to make rational and smart decisions when you're financially gaining from the relationship.

而且我有信任问题——如果男友拍vlog给我惊喜晚餐，我会想：这是为了视频还是真心？什么是真的？什么是演给镜头看的？

But also I have trust issues and I don't think that I could like If my boyfriend say like was filming me like and surprised me with some sort of nice thing, like a really nice dinner at Nobu but then like vlog the whole thing, I'd be like, so did you do this for the vlog or do you do this because you fuck with me because I'm your girlfriend? Like what's real? What's fake? You know? What's just for the camera?

我认为科迪和凯尔西是模范情侣。首先他们足够成熟不影响感情，其次从不互相利用。他们的合拍视频像朋友互动，因为两人都幽默有趣。

I think the perfect example of a couple that did it right is Cody and Kelsey. Cody, Coe and Kelsey Krepple. Because number one, they're mature enough to handle it where I don't think it's gonna put a wedge in their relationship. Number two, they don't ever exploit one another. They make videos together almost as if they're friends because they're both funny and they both are so entertaining and great to watch.

他们一起制作有趣的视频，不需要利用他们的关系，也不需要搞什么点击诱饵，比如‘男友标签’，你知道的，那种‘我们揭露恋爱关系中的所有秘密’的套路。他们不是那样做的。他们只是在一起拍些搞笑的内容，但跟他们的恋爱关系无关。他们没有在消费自己的感情。是的。

And it's like, they make videos together that are entertaining without them having to exploit their relationship, without them having to clickbait, like boyfriend tag, you know, we spill all the secrets about our relationship. Like, that's not what they're doing. They're just together in a video making funny shit, but it doesn't have anything to do with their relationship. They're not exploiting their relationship. Yes.

他们的关系是公开的，也一起做事，但他们没有互相利用。他们一起创作内容是因为两人都很有趣，而且在恋爱关系之外还有深厚的友谊。是的。他们有浪漫的成分，但即使不约会也会是朋友。你懂我的意思吗？

Their relationship is public and they do stuff together, but they're not exploiting each other. They're making content together because they're both funny and they have a great friendship outside of their relationship. Yes. They have the romantic element, but they would be friends if they weren't dating. You know what I mean?

其实也不完全是这样，因为如果他们不约会，那就意味着他们分手了。但你明白我想说的吗？而且和前任做朋友很难，不过无所谓。你懂我意思吧？他们一起拍视频的样子就像朋友一样。

Like, not really because if they were weren't dating, that would mean that they broke up. But you know what I'm saying? And then it's hard to be friends with an ex, but whatever. You see what I'm saying? Like, they make videos together as if they're friends.

他们互相调侃些与彼此无关的事情，不会拿对方当点击诱饵。妈的我的狗在叫。停。停下。天啊。

Like, they they have fun banter about things that aren't each other and they don't clickbait using each other. Like, my fucking dogs are barking. Stop. Stop. Oh my god.

要是我告诉你，我暂停录制了一会儿，结果忘了家里预约了新冠检测，现在刚被捅了鼻子疼哭了。不是那种大哭，就是眼睛流泪那种。今天我的脑子被捅了。其实也没那么糟。但我刚经历的就是这个。

What if I told you that I stopped my recording for a second and then forgot that I had a COVID test appointment at my house and then now I just got my nose probed and cried because it hurt. Not like cried like as in like, cried as in like my eyes were watering. I got my brain poked today. Actually, it wasn't it wasn't that bad. But that's what I just did.

但我回来了。总之我完全忘了刚才聊到哪儿。所以这期节目真是一团糟。我也一团糟，不过无所谓。我们聊的是公开恋爱关系，为什么不好，以及什么时候行得通。

But I'm back. Anyway, I totally forgot what we were talking about. So this is this episode's a fucking mess. I'm a mess, but whatever. We're talking about public relationships, why it's bad, when it works.

Cody和Kelsey就是个好例子。是的。好吧。我不知道。我只是觉得保持一段私密关系、独享其中滋味有种神圣感。

Cody and Kelsey are a great example. Yes. Okay. I don't know. I just think that there's something so sacred about having a private relationship and having it all to yourself.

我觉得公开恋情会让它失去一些魔力。我也认为恋爱本身充满变数——分手、复合、长久相处、认识新的人又旧情复燃…经历所有这些事时被众人围观会很艰难，懂吗？

And I think that making relationships public can make it lose some of the magic. I also think that dating is something that is so all over the place. You break up with people, you get back together, you're, you know, dating for a long like whatever, like you, you know, you talk to new people, you get back together. It's like there's so much that happens and it would be really hard to experience all of those things under a microscope. You know?

那样真的会很困难。所以我才不谈这个。但我也想尊重伴侣的隐私。同时我也不想感觉自己被利用。这是我最大的恐惧之一。

Like it would be really difficult. And that's why I don't talk about it. But also I I wanna respect the privacy the privacy of my significant other. And I also don't wanna feel like I'm being used either. Because that's a huge fear of mine.

所以总体而言保持私密更好。不过我觉得将来某个时候会公开，可能要等到年纪更大、准备结婚时。说到这个，为什么我现在——最近很多人聊到这个——为什么我已经准备好安定下来组建家庭了？我确实已经为人生下一阶段做好了准备。

And so I think that it's just better overall to keep it private. But I do think that at some point, I will I will open up about it, but it'll have to be when I'm older and when I'm getting married. Speaking of that, why literally like, I don't know if it's I've been talking to a lot of people about this. Why am I, like, ready to settle down and, like, have a family already? I I am, like, ready for that next step in my life.

就是，我真的不想再当青少年了。我只想快点长大成人。但转念一想，我为什么要急着过完人生呢？我不该这样的，应该要一天天好好过日子才对。

Like, I just don't wanna be a teen anymore. Like, I just wanna be an adult. But it's like, why am I rushing my life, though? I shouldn't be doing that. I should be, like, living it day by day.

但可能是因为疫情吧，让我总想着要安定下来什么的。毕竟现在整天无所事事，这种念头听起来挺合理——等生活恢复正常后，我肯定会后悔说这些话。幸好短期内不会有孩子或家庭牵绊，所以完全不用担心。

But maybe it's the fact that we're in COVID situation. Maybe that's making me want to, like, settle down and or whatever because it's like, I'm already, like, not doing much. So it, like, sounds like the right probably when things start happening again, I'm going to regret saying that. Luckily, there's no baby or family coming anytime soon. So we have nothing to worry about.

对了，我刚想起来！我今天做了核酸检测。用的是那种五分钟出结果的快速检测，我和检测员在外面等结果时闲聊了几句，短短几分钟里我们居然建立起了一点友谊。

But anyway, you know what I just remembered? I so I just got my COVID test. And when I had like a conversation, it was like one of the rapid tests that you find out within like five minutes or whatever. So me and the COVID test lady were outside and we were just chatting waiting for my results to come in. And and then so we kind of had like, built a little friendship in the few minutes that we were together.

倒也不算真友谊，但你懂我意思吧？我们聊了会儿天。她离开时我在想：该怎么道别呢？毕竟刚聊了那么久——其实也不算久，但和陌生人聊五分钟已经很长了。

Not really, but you know what I'm saying? We were talking. And so then when she was leaving, I was like, okay, like how do I like say goodbye to her? Because like we just had a long conversation. Like I don't I mean it wasn't long but like five minutes with a stranger.

你明白吗？最后我只说了句'再见，注意安全'，尴尬得要死。我觉得这就是我的社交短板——

You know what I mean? And so I was like, bye. Stay safe out there. And and it was so awkward. And I I feel like that's my one area socially that I lack.

我特别不会道别。比如从朋友车上下来时，每次都会说些怪话，说完自己都尴尬到脚趾抠地。比如'好啦各位回见'

I'm so bad at saying goodbye. Like, I'll be getting out of somebody's car, like one of my friend's cars, and I'll be like, alright. I'll say some weird shit every time. And I and it makes me cringe so bad. Like I'll I'll say something like, alright, see you guys.

还会补一句'路上别撞到松鼠哦'然后关上车门。这种话根本毫无语境支撑，但我今天又这么干了

Like, don't hit a squirrel on the way home and then I'll close the door. Like, no context would I say. Ever. And it's so weird. Like, I did it today.

今天从别人车上下来时我说了什么来着？等等...天啊...当时是...

I was getting out of somebody's car and I what did I say? What did I say? Oh my god. Okay. I was getting out of somebody's car.

今天是周四（录音时），我故意说了句'爱你哦，周二快乐'想搞笑，但今天根本不是周二

It's Thursday today when I'm recording this. And I was like, okay, love you. Happy Tuesday. To be like funny. But it's not Tuesday.

我明明知道是周四才故意这么说的。但为什么要说这种话啊？每次道别都要搞这么尴尬，真的太他妈尴尬了

It's Thursday and I knew that and that's why I said it. But, like, why did I say that? Like, why do I do that when I'm saying goodbye? It's so awkward. It's so fucking awkward.

所以我需要改进这一点。这是我打算开始练习的事情，就是学会如何避免那样做。因为这会让每个人都感到不自在。好了，最后一个问题。

So I need to work on that. That's something that I'm gonna start workshopping, like, just figuring out how to not do that. Because it just like makes everybody uncomfortable. So okay. Last question.

有人问对2021年的预测。说实话，我认为这将是非常棒的一年。我觉得在2021年的某个时刻，生活将逐渐回归某种常态，这非常令人期待。当一切重新开放，我们可以自由行动时，每个人都会在某种程度上觉醒。我们将前所未有地珍惜生活和随心所欲的自由。

Somebody said predictions for 2021. I think it's gonna be I honestly think it's gonna be a great year. I think that things are gonna kind of return to some normalcy at some point in 2021, which will be very exciting. I think that everybody is going to have an awakening in a way when things start opening back up and we're allowed to, like, do whatever we want. There's gonna be an appreciation for life and for that freedom to do whatever you want that we have never ever felt in our whole life.

我认为这是值得期待的。你知道吗？非常激动人心的是，在某个时刻，我们都会更加感恩一切。我们会更愿意放下手机。我感觉我们会更活在当下，真正享受每一刻。

And I think that it's something to look forward to. You know? It's very exciting that at some point, we're gonna be able to I think we're all gonna appreciate everything so much more. We're gonna appreciate putting our phones down. Like, I feel like we're gonna live in the moment so much more and really like soak it up.

我希望如此。我真心期盼这样，因为如果我们能在2021年恢复某种常态，并以从未有过的方式真正珍惜生活，那将是整个困境中的一线光明。还有什么比八个月不能堂食更能让人懂得坐在餐厅里的简单快乐呢？我为此感到兴奋。我觉得生活中有很多值得期待的事。

I hope. I really hope for that because I think that that could be such a silver lining in this whole thing if we can go into 2021 and then return to some level of normalcy and then really appreciate life in a way that we never could have otherwise. And what better way to make people appreciate the simple pleasures of sitting inside at a restaurant than not being able to for eight months, you know? I'm excited for it. I think we have a lot to look forward to in this life.

这期节目的主旨是：我的大脑空空如也。但我正在培养一些爱好，我觉得这会有所帮助。我建议你也这样做。爱你们。感谢你们每周听我唠叨，包容我和我的胡言乱语。

Moral of this episode, my brain is empty. But I'm getting some hobbies and I think that's gonna help. And I recommend you do the same. I love you guys. Thanks for listening to me every week and putting up with me and my bullshit.

知道吗？我真的很感激你们每一个人。如果你喜欢这个播客，请在Apple Podcasts上打五星好评。在Spotify、Apple Podcasts或任何你收听播客的地方订阅。如果你想在推特上向我提问，或分享我在这里给出的建议，推特账号是a g podcast。

You know? I appreciate all of you guys so much. And if you enjoy the podcast, give it a little five stars on Apple Podcasts. Subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, anywhere you get your podcasts. If you wanna tweet me questions or tweet me stuff from my advice sessions that I do here, the Twitter's at a g podcast.

你可以在那里@我任何事。希望你们度过愉快的一周，周末玩得开心，或者周中也能找到乐趣。下周见。非常爱你们，保持精彩。别对自己太苛刻，好吗？

You can tweet anything at me there. And I hope that you guys have an amazing rest of your week and have a fun weekend and or have a fun week and I'll see you next week. And I love you all a lot and stay awesome. And don't be so hard on yourself. Okay?

我们都需要对自己宽容一点。让我们朝这个方向努力，并期待2021年。好了，大家再见。

We all need to be a little bit easier on ourselves. Let's work on that. And let's look forward to 2021. Okay. Bye, everybody.

爱你们。

Love you guys.