平衡事业与婚姻

当我遇见珍妮时，我事先设定了期望。你有没有觉得她必须放弃自我？是的。你说什么？我去叫她。

When I met Jenny, I set expectations upfront. Did you ever feel like she had to lose her identity? Yes. Excuse me? I'll grab her.

我会让她说。好的。那就再问一遍这个问题。嗯。嗯。

I'll let her talk. Okay. So ask the question again. Yeah. Yeah.

和他建立关系，对吧，嫁给他，你是否必须放弃你的身份，那个你努力塑造的自己，那个曾经的你？人总是需要不断寻找自我。无论是作为妻子、女孩还是女儿，你总得找到自己的定位。没有哪个时刻或人生阶段能让你断言'我完全清楚自己是谁'。这不可能。

Being in a relationship with him, right, marrying him, did you have to give up your identity, the person you worked so hard to build, the person you were? There's always you have to find yourself. Doesn't matter as a wife, as a girl, as a daughter, you always have to find identity. There's no such a time or point of life you say, I know exactly who I am. You can't.

因为当所有事情发生在你身上时，你会有各种反应。同时你也在成长。是的。你会意识到。在进化。

Because when everything happens to you and you're kind like react to it. And you're growing too. Yeah. You realize. Evolving.

嗯。哦，也许五年前我会那样处理事情，但五年后我的处理方式会不同。人总是在寻找真正的自我。我曾为此困惑，我不断自问：我到底是珍妮·李，还是洛克太太？

Mhmm. Oh, maybe I was handling things five years ago that way, but after five years I will handle things differently. You're always looking for who you really are. I had that, I asked myself so am I Jenny Lee or am I Mrs. Locke?

我问过自己这个问题。嗯。但后来我发现当我们结婚后，我们就像合为一体。你可以想象我们如同两个人结合成了一个整体。所以对我而言，他的成功就是我的成功。

I asked myself that question. Mhmm. But then I noticed that when we married together, we are as a one person. You can think we're like two people joined together, so we're like a one person. So to me, it's more like his success is my success.

我不会产生'丈夫比我优秀'或'妻子比我强'的不安感。我不会那么想，因为他的成功源于我的付出。我随时都愿意揽下这份功劳。没有我，他不可能取得这样的成功。就这么简单。

I wouldn't have that insecurity of oh my husband is better than me or my wife is better than me. I won't think that way it's because his success is because of me. I I would take that credit any day of the night. Without me, he wouldn't be this success. Period.

他是百分百支持你的。他的态度就是，你想做什么就去做。我百分百支持你，你什么都不用担心。我可以在经济上支持你，也可以在精神上支持你。

He's a 100% support. He's like, you do whatever you want. I'm a 100% supportive, and then you don't need to worry anything. And then I can support you financially. I can support you, like, spiritually.

无论你告诉我什么，我都能帮你。但当我坐下来思考时，又会意识到自己做不到，因为作为伴侣，我会时刻想着你和你的生意。当我意识到他的成功也是我的成功时，这种顾虑就消失了，不再是我的障碍。

Like, anything you tell me. Like, I can help you. But then I sit down and think about it, but then I was like, but I can't because I will actually think about you and think about your business all the time because we're as a couple. So when I realized his success is also my success, then I don't have that anymore. It's out of my way.

这很难，但这是伴侣间必须进行的对话。我会考虑他，想着：这对我们的事业有帮助吗？能促进我们成长吗？能助力我们的团队吗？

It's hard, but that's the conversation that couples need to have. I would think about him, I was like, okay, so is this gonna help our business? Business. Is it gonna help us grow? Is it gonna help Our team.

我们的团队。这很自然，这就是我们的相处方式，对吧？所以我不会觉得这家公司是丹洛斯的公司，我从不这么看。

Our team. Like, it's just very natural. That's our language, right? So I don't see that, oh, this company is Danlos company. I don't see it that way.