353 | 如何发挥全部潜能并持续前进——即使面临困境

本期节目旨在帮助你理解这种情绪起伏的过山车体验，旨在让这种经历显得正常化，并让你明白并非只有你一人经历这些。这很可怕，因为尽管我有能力做得更多——因为我见识过，但我还未完全投入其中。实际上我还没达到那个境界，我只是半途而已。

This episode is intended to help you understand this up and down emotional roller coaster. It's intended to help normalize that experience and help you see that you're not the only one experiencing it. It's terrifying because even though I'm capable of more because I've seen it, I haven't fully stepped into it. I'm not actually there yet. I'm halfway there.

我只实现了一半的潜力。但知道你挺过来了，知道你走到了终点，会让你感到无比强大和坚韧。欢迎收听《勇敢发声的艺术》，这是一档帮助职业女性发掘内在无限潜能的播客。我是主持人杰西卡·古兹克，我的使命是帮你找到内心那股火花，它能以你意想不到的方式改变你的职业生涯。很高兴你来到这里，现在请收听节目。

I have half realized potential Knowing that you endured that, knowing that you got to the other end of that will make you feel so mother effing strong and resilient. Welcome to the art of speaking up, a podcast that helps professional women access the limitless potential that lies within them. I'm your host, Jessica Guzik, and my mission is to help you find that spark inside you that has the power to transform your career in ways you may not have thought possible. I'm so excited that you're here. And now onto the show.

欢迎收听本播客，非常感谢你的关注。我是杰斯，这档《勇敢发声的艺术》播客的主创兼主持人，同时也是一名女性成长教练。我在此助你在职场中感到自信、势不可挡且充满力量，并帮助你成为领导者。

Welcome to the podcast. Thank you so much for tuning in. I'm Jess. I'm the host and creator of the art of speaking up podcast, and I'm a coach for women. I am here to help you feel confident and unstoppable and super powerful in your corporate career, and I'm here to help you become a leader.

今天的节目将全面探讨建立自信的过程，以及如何跨越终点线达到你渴望的自信水平。如果你正困在建立信心的混乱中期——取得了一些进展，偶有突破和胜利，但状态不稳定，这期节目就是为你准备的。这种体验就像情绪过山车，某天你可能取得重大胜利，处于极度兴奋中，心想：天啊，我在成长，我在改变。

And today's episode is all about the process of building confidence and all about the process of crossing that finish line to get to the level of confidence that you desire. This episode is for you if you feel like you're stuck in the messy middle of building confidence, where you've made some progress and you have moments of breakthrough and you have wins, but it's inconsistent. And it feels a bit like an emotional roller coaster where one day you might have a big win and be on a big high and be thinking to yourself, oh my gosh. I'm growing. I'm changing.

我在进化。我完全能做到。我可以追求梦想。我能成为理想中的女性与领导者。但其他日子里，事情并不顺利。

I'm evolving. I can totally do this. I can reach for my dreams. I can become the woman and leader that I want to be. But then other days, things don't go as well.

你会卡住。遇到障碍。陷入自我怀疑无法自拔。突然间，情绪高潮就变成了低谷。你会想：哇，我居然以为自己真能做到，还以为在进步，现在看起来我在那次会议或利益相关者互动中搞砸了，真是有点可笑。

You get stuck. An obstacle comes up. You fall into self doubt, and you can't get yourself out of it. And all of a sudden, that emotional high becomes an emotional low. And you think to yourself, wow.

这种起伏不定的体验会带来情绪上的鞭打效应。前一天还在庆祝胜利，第二天就陷入挣扎，这种反复非常消耗精力。而这种上下波动的经历，会严重干扰你对建立信心过程的深度投入。

I feel a little bit silly for thinking that I could actually do this and thinking I was making progress. Look at how I failed in that meeting or in that stakeholder interaction. And this up and down experience can give you a form of emotional whiplash. It can be quite exhausting to go from having a win one day to really struggling the next day. And that up and down experience can really interfere with the depth of your commitment to your confidence building process.

因为身处那个混乱的中间阶段是如此具有挑战性——有时你会成功，有时会因精疲力竭而失败。这种经历的强烈程度有时会让你想：也许我该彻底放弃，停止梦想，停止追求更多。如果停止梦想和追求，至少能逃离这种情绪过山车——今天还相信自己能做到并感觉良好，第二天就陷入极度悲观。

Because it is so challenging to be in that messy middle phase where sometimes you have wins and sometimes you have fails because of how tiring and energetically demanding that can be. Sometimes the intensity of that experience makes you think, maybe I should just give up on this entirely. Maybe I should stop dreaming. Maybe I should stop reaching for more because if I stop dreaming and I stop reaching for more, at least I get to get off of this emotional roller coaster where one day I believe it's possible for me and I'm feeling amazing about myself. And then the next day, I'm feeling not great at all and super pessimistic.

本期节目旨在帮助你理解这种起伏的情绪过山车，让这种体验正常化，让你明白并非只有你在经历这些。更重要的是，它激励你继续突破——信心建设过程中那些高低起伏的混乱中期阶段虽然极难跨越，但若能坚持到底，你将实现自信的永久性成长，获得内在坚实的力量。今天的节目将为你提供穿越混乱中期所需的智慧、知识和动力，助你抵达终点，建立渴望的深层自信。

This episode is intended to help you understand this up and down emotional roller coaster. It's intended to help normalize that experience and help you see that you're not the only one experiencing it. And more importantly, this episode is intended to motivate you to keep pushing past it because that messy middle of confidence building where some days you're on a high and some days you're on a low, That messy middle can be incredibly difficult to get through. But if you can push through it and if you can endure and last through it, you really can achieve permanent growth in your self confidence and permanent growth in how strong and solid you feel inside. And today's episode is intended to provide you with the wisdom, knowledge, and motivation that you need to keep pushing through the messy middle so you can cross the finish line and build that deep confidence that you desire.

我迫不及待想深入探讨这个话题，因为我热爱讨论深层内在成长。在进入正题前，有个激动人心的限时公告：我的旗舰项目《勇敢发声学院》将于下周开放申请（若你收听时正值播出周，即3月10日那周）。这个学院项目——

I'm so excited to dive into this because I love talking about the deeper inner work. And before I go too deep into today's episode, I have a super exciting time sensitive announcement, which is that applications for my signature program, the Art of Speaking Up Academy, are opening next week. So if you are listening to this episode the week that it's out, that will be next week. If you're listening to this episode a little bit late, just know that it is the week of March 10 on the calendar. The art of speaking up academy signature program.

是我目前支持客户的主要方式，这是一个由我亲自指导的精品小组辅导项目。我将协助你和一群志同道合的职业女性共同完成两项核心工作：建立持久深层自信的内在修炼，以及学习高管级沟通技巧、提升职场影响力的专业发展。该项目采用体系化课程+实时教学，除直播课程外还设有专属社群，方便学员随时与我联系获取个性化支持。

It is the main way that I currently support my clients, and it is a guided live intimate small group coaching program where I support you and a tight knit cohort of similar professional women in doing the inner work of building deep, lasting confidence and doing the professional development work of learning how to communicate at an executive level and having a stronger executive presence in the room. The Art of Speaking Up Academy is a curriculum based program. It is taught live by me. In addition to the live sessions, we also have a private online community where you get to stay connected with your cohort in between the sessions. The private online community is also a place where you can ping me anytime for personalized help and support.

学院课程包含四个阶段：1.自信建设 2.高管气质培养 3.核心沟通技巧 4.真实自我表达的艺术。如果你渴望提升沟通能力，但希望这种提升源自更深层的自信；如果你不愿停留在表面技巧，而是想要由内而外建立强大内核——这就是为你设计的项目。可通过节目说明中的链接或访问justgussetcoaching.com/academy加入等候列表（3月10日开放申请时你会收到通知），我的邮箱也在说明中供咨询。

And when you're in the academy, you will go through the four phases of my curriculum, which are one, confidence building, two, growing your executive presence, three, learning the foundations of executive communication. And four, mastering the art of assertiveness in a way that's authentic. If you are ready to elevate your communication skills, but you want your voice to be fueled by a deeper sense of self confidence, and you want to go beyond the surface level tactical communication advice, and you wanna do that deeper work to feel strong and capable from the inside out, this is the program for you. You can learn more by clicking the link in the show notes or going to just gussetcoaching.com/academy, where I encourage you to add yourself to the wait list so that you are notified on March 10 when applications open. I will also put my email in the show notes so that if you have any questions, you can reach out to me.

时容易陷入二元论——

I am so excited to get started with the next couple cohorts of this program. And with that, I am so excited to dive deep into today's episode, which is all about this commonly missed ingredient when it comes to reaching your full potential and building really big confidence and learning to feel really, really strong inside. And this is something that I refer to as getting caught in the land of half realized potential. If that sounds a bit unfamiliar to you, by the end of today's episode, this phrase will make sense because I'm going to be explaining to you what I mean by the land of half realized potential. So when we think about and talk about this idea of realizing our full potential, we often think about it in a binary.

我们总认为：要么没发挥全部潜能，要么已完全发挥。常见的思维模式是：'我现在未达潜能，但希望能达到'——仿佛这是非此即彼的开关。而往往我们会在尝试切换时遭遇困境，原因在于：潜能实现与否，本质上并非我们想象的那种二元状态。

We think I'm either not realizing my full potential or I am realizing my full potential. And often, we have a thought process that sounds something like, right now, I am not realizing my full potential, and I would like to be realizing my full potential. And we think about it as a switch from one thing to something completely different. And often, we sometimes struggle or we get stuck on our journey to try to make this switch. And one of the reasons this happens is because us being at our full potential or not being at our full potential typically isn't a binary in the way that we're thinking about it.

通常情况并非非此即彼——要么未能发挥潜能，要么完全实现了潜能。我最常见到的，尤其是那些被我的播客吸引、被我作为教练的工作所吸引的职业女性，是她们只部分实现了潜能。她们处于潜能半开发状态。而我们很少以这种方式讨论潜能问题，通常只简单二分：要么未达潜能，要么已臻圆满。

It's typically not this situation where I'm either not realizing my potential or I am realizing my full potential. What I see most often, especially with the professional women who are attracted to my podcast and who are attracted to the work that I do as a coach, is that their potential is partially realized. They have half realized potential. And we rarely talk about our potential in that way. We usually think about it and talk about it as either I'm not realizing my full potential or I am realizing my full potential.

但你几乎听不到有人说'我的潜能实现了一半'或'我正在经历大量半开发的潜能'。意识到'半实现潜能'确实存在，意识到在从零到完全实现潜能的旅程中存在这个中间点，恰恰能帮助我们走完全程。因为半实现阶段正是我们最容易放弃和失败的关键节点。这就是为什么必须认识到：这是过程中的一个阶段，你的潜能确实可能处于半开发状态。这让我想起人们常说的'怀孕没有半途之说'。

But you will rarely hear someone say, oh, I'm halfway to realizing my potential, or my potential is half realized, or I'm experiencing a lot of half realized potential. And it is the awareness that half realized potential is a thing and that there is an actual halfway point, a midpoint on the journey of not at all reaching our potential to completely reaching our potential that actually equips us to make it to the end of that journey. Because half realized potential is the point in the journey towards our full potential where we are most likely to give up and fail. This is why it's so important to have an awareness that this is a phase in the process and an awareness that there is such a thing as your potential being half realized or partially realized. It reminds me of when people say, you can't be half pregnant.

要么怀孕，要么没怀孕——我们常以这种二元思维看待潜能。对吧？就像要么没发挥潜能，要么完全发挥了。但就潜能而言，确实可以存在'半怀孕'状态。

You're either pregnant or you're not pregnant. And we often think of potential in that way. Right? Like, you're either not reaching your potential or you are reaching your potential. But in the case of potential, you can be half pregnant.

你可以只走完半程。而想要建立自信、达到那种全力以赴、尽显领导力的境界，关键就在于理解为何半实现的潜能常使人停滞不前。这正是本期节目要探讨的核心——首先我将界定潜能实现光谱上的不同阶段。

You can be halfway there. And the key in you building the confidence you want and reaching that point where you feel like you're firing on all cylinders, you're bringing all of your power and leadership to the table. For you to get to that point, it's important to understand why half realized potential often keeps us stuck and prevents us from fully realizing our potential. That's what I'm going to be walking you through in today's episode. And the first thing that I'm going to do is define the different places along the spectrum of reaching your potential.

我将定义何为'完全未开发潜能'的表现，接着阐述'百分百发挥潜能'的状态，然后重点解析处于中间态——半实现潜能意味着什么。因为我敢说，多数听众可能正处在这个阶段。这正是我们必须讨论它的意义所在。

I'm gonna define what it means and what it looks like to not be realizing your potential at all. Then I'm gonna talk about what it's like to be realizing your full potential and be 100% firing on all cylinders. And then I'm gonna explain what it means to be in the middle, what it means to have half realized potential. Because if I had to take a guess, I would say the majority of people listening to this podcast are probably gonna fall in the bucket of half realized potential. That's why it's so important that we talk about it.

好，什么是'完全未开发潜能'？这意味着你完全没触及自身深层能力，不认为自己可能有更大作为，反而认定自己能力有限。

Okay. So what does it mean when your potential is completely unrealized? When your potential is completely unrealized, you are not at all tapping into the deeper capabilities that you have. You're not thinking that maybe you're capable of more. You're thinking that you aren't capable of more.

你认为别人比你更有能力，根本不相信自己天赋异禀，不认为自己能贡献更多。由于缺乏这些认知，你自然不会努力展现这些特质，也不会主动突破舒适区。

You're thinking that other people are more capable than you. You really don't believe that you are highly talented. You don't believe that you have more to offer. And because you don't believe those things are true, you're not really making efforts to demonstrate those things. You're not making efforts to stretch yourself.

对吧？因为如果我们不相信自己能突破极限，甚至不相信自己拥有这种能力，我们就不会尝试。那将是浪费精力。所以，未实现潜能的一些表现可能是：当你走进会议室时，你甚至没有思考过‘我能为这次会议贡献什么’这个问题。你带着保持沉默的预设走进会议。

Right? Because if we don't believe that we can stretch ourselves, if we don't believe that we even have that ability, we wouldn't try. That would be a waste of energy. So some examples of what it might look like to have unrealized potential is when you go into a meeting and you don't even engage your mind in the question of what can I contribute in this meeting? You go into the meeting assuming that you will be silent.

你本就没有发言的打算，因此感觉风险很低。当你的潜能未被发掘时，你不会感到压力很大，因为你没有试图提出任何大胆或勇敢的想法。我记得刚开始朝九晚五的职业生涯时，在麦肯锡工作，那时我真的很缺乏自信。我记得我参加会议时总想着：我不是来发言的，我不会贡献任何东西。

You have no intention to speak, and therefore, the stakes feel really low. So when your potential is unrealized, the stakes don't feel high because you're not trying to bring anything daring and courageous to the table. So I remember in the beginning of my nine to five career when I worked at McKinsey, I was really struggling with confidence. And I remember I would go into meetings thinking, I am not here to speak in this meeting. I'm not going to contribute anything.

我不会帮助大家推进这个问题。我就坐在这里，记好笔记，认真听讲。这就是我完全未发挥潜能的状态。

I am not going to help people move this question forward. I'm gonna sit here. I'm gonna take great notes. I'm gonna listen really, really well. And that was me experiencing completely unrealized potential.

我甚至没想过自己或许能有所贡献，这意味着起初这些会议对我来说并不特别有压力，因为当我们潜能未开发时，我们处于舒适区。我们甚至没想过要发言或挑战自己，因为我们不认为自己有能力。我们不认为那是我们的选择，不认为那对我们来说是可行的。所以在某种程度上，风险非常非常低，因为我们不期待自己做任何困难的事。

It didn't even occur to me that maybe I had something to offer, which actually meant that these meetings at first weren't super stressful for me because when we have unrealized potential, we're in our comfort zone. We're not even thinking of speaking up or stretching ourselves or anything like that because we don't think we're capable. We don't think that's an option for us. We don't think that's on the table for us. So in a way, the stakes are very, very low because we don't expect ourselves to do anything difficult.

所以，你完全未发挥潜能的一些迹象是：你完全没考虑过如何能贡献更多、如何挑战自己、如何参与对话。你没有感到压力增大，不觉得有压力，也没有真正挑战自己。这就是完全未发挥潜能的状态。

So some signs that you are experiencing completely unrealized potential is that you're not thinking at all about how you could add more, how you could stretch yourself, how you could be part of the conversation. You don't feel heightened stakes. It doesn't feel that stressful. You're not really challenging yourself. This is what it's like to have completely unrealized potential.

你甚至没想过你可以站出来领导，你可以提供更多。现在让我们看看光谱的另一端——已实现的潜能。已实现的潜能是指你正在运用所有的天赋和才能。你视自己为房间里极具能力的领导者，你挑战自己参与对话。

It doesn't even occur to you that you can step up and lead, that there's more that you can offer. Now let's go all the way to the other side of the spectrum, realized potential. Realized potential is when you are tapping in to all of your gifts and talents. So you see yourself as a highly capable leader in the room. You are challenging yourself to be a part of the conversation.

你占据空间，你在领导。当你充分发挥潜能时，并不意味着总是感觉轻松。你仍在挑战自己，仍在推动自己占据空间。

You are taking up space. You are leading. And when you are realizing your full potential, it's not that it always feels easy. You're still stretching yourself. You're still pushing yourself to take up space.

但这就像你身体已经非常健康时去健身房锻炼一样。仍然很艰难，你仍需自我鞭策，但在鞭策中会感受到一种从容，一种懂得如何突破自我、应对挑战的胜任感。因此，发挥全部潜能与完全实现潜能，并不意味着事情变得极其轻松、毫不费力。而是意味着你为发声、成为会议中的领导者、展现强大气场付出的努力，会显得可行且自然，就像你能从容完成的拉伸动作。

But it's kind of like going to the gym when you're already in really good physical shape. It's still hard. You still have to push yourself, but you experience a sense of ease in pushing yourself, a sense of competence in knowing how to stretch yourself, how to do hard things. So operating at your full potential and having fully realized potential, it doesn't mean it's so, so, so easy and you're making zero effort. But it means that the effort that you're exerting to speak up, to be a leader in the room, to have a really strong presence, that effort feels doable and natural, and it feels like a stretch that you can stretch into.

因此，这会带来极大的满足感与成就感。你在完成困难但可行之事中获得满足。这正是我们最渴望的状态——既不停滞不前，又不会感到无聊。

And as a result, it feels very satisfying and fulfilling. You get the satisfaction of accomplishing something hard but doable. And that's one of the most satisfying places for us to be where we're not stagnating. Right? It's not boring.

我们仍在挑战自我，但难度恰到好处：既充满趣味又令人满足，让我们获得成就感。当你全力发挥潜能时，可能会感到压力，偶尔也会害怕或觉得困难，但你完全能够应对。你能够挺身而出，事后则会感到无比自豪。

We're still challenging ourselves, but it's hard enough that it's interesting, that it's satisfying, that we feel a sense of reward. So when you're realizing your full potential, there might be some pressure that you feel. You might have some moments where it feels scary or difficult, but you're able to handle it. You're able to show up for it. And then afterwards, you feel really proud.

你会为自己即便困难仍能强势领导、发声和展现自我而感到骄傲。这就是你完全发挥潜能的状态。但人们很少谈及——也极其重要的是——关于

So you feel proud of the fact that you were able to lead and speak and show up powerfully even though it was difficult. That is you realizing your full potential. Now what people don't talk about and what is extremely important to talk about is the idea of half realized potential. There's a very good chance that this is the bucket that you're in. Half realized potential means you're somewhere in the middle of unrealized potential and realized potential.

当潜能半实现时，你会经历一些突破时刻：相信自己能做到，隐约看见隧道尽头的曙光，偶尔取得胜利。也许你在通常保持沉默的会议上发言了，或许你成功回答了利益相关者提出的难题。这些时刻你确实体验到了完全发挥潜能的自己。但这些时刻并不稳定。

So when your potential is half realized, you have some moments of breakthrough where you believe you can do it, you kinda see the light at the end of the tunnel, you achieve wins here and there. So maybe you do speak in a meeting where typically you might have been quiet. Maybe you are able to really successfully answer a difficult question that you get asked by a stakeholder. But you have moments where you actually are experiencing the version of you who has realized their potential. However, those moments are inconsistent.

并非每次都能如此。有时你能强势发声、展现自我，有时则不能。有时你未能成功表达观点，或是没能按预期应对压力或问题。这就是半实现潜能的领域。我认为人们没有意识到的是：这是最艰难的阶段，因为此时风险最高，情绪波动也最剧烈。

That's not always the situation. Sometimes, you're able to speak up powerfully and show up powerfully, and other times, you're not. Other times, you don't succeed at speaking up, or you aren't able to handle the pressure or handle the question in the way that you want to. This is the land of half realized potential. And I think something that people don't think about or realize when it comes to half realized potential is that this is one of the most difficult places to be because this is where the stakes are the highest and where the emotional experience is the most volatile.

当我们处于光谱两端时——要么潜能完全未开发，要么完全实现——情绪波动反而较小。潜能未开发时，由于完全不挑战自我，情绪更稳定：你甘于表现平庸，因为没意识到自己还有潜力。而在光谱另一端，当潜能完全实现，你能像领导者般自信强大时，情绪也不易波动，因为你已熟练驾驭这些挑战。是的，这依然艰难。

When we're on the far ends of the spectrum, if your potential is completely unrealized or completely realized, there is less emotional volatility on those farther ends of the spectrum. So when your potential is unrealized, there's less emotional volatility because you're not challenging yourself at all. You don't expect yourself to show up bigger in a way you are content showing up small because you don't realize that you have more to give. And on the other side of the spectrum, when your potential is fully realized and you are showing up big and bold and like a leader, it's also less emotionally volatile because you're experienced and proficient at navigating these challenging situations. So, yes, it's hard.

但请记住，我说这就像身材匀称时去健身房。虽然辛苦，但不会酸痛七天之久。因此这种体验不会那么强烈，也不像半实现的潜力那样情绪起伏如过山车。因为半实现的潜力伴随着从未实现状态脱离的全部风险——突然间各种可能性被摆上台面，突然间就有了成败得失。

But remember, I said it's like going to the gym when you're in shape. It's hard, but you're not gonna be sore for seven days after. And so the experience isn't as intense, and it isn't as much of an emotional roller coaster as half realized potential. Because with half realized potential, you have all the stakes that come with moving out of unrealized potential because now all of a sudden, there are possibilities on the table. Now all of a sudden, there are stakes.

当你的潜力完全未被开发，你认定自己无法做得更好时，其实毫无风险。你没什么可失去的，已处在最低谷。但当潜力实现一半时，突然间，关于你可能成为怎样的人的构想已加入对话，摆在眼前，触手可及。而无法达成或失去这个构想，变得比以往更令人恐惧和痛苦。

When your potential is completely unrealized and you're thinking that you're just not capable of more, there are no stakes. You have nothing to lose. You're at that bottom level. But when your potential is half realized, all of a sudden, there's this future idea of who you could be that has entered into the chat, that is on the table, that is available to you. And the idea of not attaining that or losing that becomes scarier and more painful.

当我们处于半途时，思考可能成为的那个自己，远比站在起点线时更令人恐惧不安。比起潜力完全未开发、毫无进展的初始状态，半途而废的中途点更让人忐忑。这是因为当我们真正投入，开始意识到内在可能蕴藏更多，开始挖掘这份潜力时，失望与失败就成为了可能。当我认为自己毫无能力时，永远不会真正失望——我早已假定自己会停滞不前。

It is much scarier and much more uncertain to think about the version of us who we could become when we are halfway there to becoming that version. It is scarier and more uncertain when we're at the halfway point than when we're at the zero starting line and we have unrealized potential and we haven't made any progress at all. And this is because as soon as we get in the game and as soon as we start realizing maybe there's more inside of us, and as soon as we start tapping into that potential, all of a sudden, disappointment and failure are now on the table. Because when I'm in unrealized potential and I don't think I'm capable of anything, I can never really disappoint myself. I've already assumed that I'm going to stagnate and that I'm going to stay stuck.

所以我毫无损失。若未能发挥全部潜力，我不会失望，因为我本就不抱期待。但当我开始挖掘潜力时，便无法从脑海中抹去这个认知：我比自己想象的更有潜力。在挑战自我之前，在测试自己是否真有潜力之前，我不知此事。如今既已知晓，就再也无法真正回到'未实现'的心理状态——因为那根本是自欺欺人。

So I have nothing to lose. If I fail to achieve my full potential, I'm not gonna feel disappointed because I was never expecting that in the first place. But once I start to take steps to tap into my full potential, I now have knowledge that I cannot erase from my mind, which is that there is more in me. There is more in me than I thought was in me before I challenged myself, before I stepped out into testing whether I do have more potential. And now that I know that there's more in me, I can never truly mentally go back to unrealized potential because I know that that was all a lie.

我明白那些都是谎言——认为自己无可贡献，成不了强大、聪明、能干的领导者。这些我曾信以为真的谎言让我活得安逸，将风险压得极低，使我无需冒险或面对不确定性。但现在我知道真相：我内在蕴藏更多，我能做得更好。

I know it was a lie that I don't have anything to contribute, that I can't be a powerful, smart, capable leader. Those were lies that I thought were true, and those lies kept me really comfortable. And they kept the stakes really, really low, and they kept me from having to take any risk or face any uncertainty. But now I know that's not true. Now I know that there's more inside of me, and I'm capable of more.

但这令人恐惧。尽管我已见证自己的潜力，却尚未完全发挥。我还没真正到达彼岸，只是行至半途。我的潜力半开半阖，而我不知能否最终抵达。

But it's terrifying. It's terrifying because even though I'm capable of more because I've seen it, I haven't fully stepped into it. I'm not actually there yet. I'm halfway there. I have half realized potential, And I don't know if I'm gonna get there.

也不知是否会永远困在这半途之境。我害怕尝试完全实现潜力后失败，害怕经历那种以为可能成功却撞上南墙的失望，害怕发现或许自己终究能力有限。因此处于半实现状态时，某种意义上我们正经历最糟糕的境遇——既承担了可能性的全部风险，又毫无必然实现的把握。理解这三种状态可以这样比喻：未实现的潜力就像揣着钱穿过拉斯维加斯赌场，却毫无赌博的意图。

And I don't know if I'm gonna be stuck in this halfway place forever. And I don't wanna try to get to fully realized potential and then fail and then have to experience the disappointment of thinking that it was possible for me and then hitting a wall and realizing all along maybe I didn't have it in me. So when we're experiencing half realized potential, in some ways, we are experiencing the worst of both worlds because we have now taken on all of the stakes of what might be possible for us and all of the stakes of knowing that maybe I could reach my full potential, but without any of the actual certainty that that is going to happen. So one way that you can think about unrealized potential, half realized potential, and realized potential is unrealized potential would be walking through a Las Vegas casino with money in your pocket, but absolutely no intention of gambling. That's unrealized potential.

你并不担心会输钱。你也不担心会赢钱，因为你压根不打算赌博。半实现的潜能就好比你从口袋里掏出钱投入老虎机，正准备拉动摇杆看看是否中了头奖。这就是半实现的潜能——我们尚未获得中头奖的满足感，却承受着可能中奖的紧张与不确定，同时清楚自己刚押上了钱，现在可能面临损失。

You're not worried about losing money. You're not worried about winning money because you are not going to gamble. Half realized potential would be you pulling money out of your pocket, putting it into the machine, and you are about to pull the slot machine to see if you've won the jackpot. That is half realized potential where we don't yet have the gratification of winning the jackpot. We have all this stress and uncertainty of knowing that maybe we'll win the jackpot, but also knowing that we just put some money on the line, and maybe now we have something to lose.

对吧？而完全实现的潜能则是你中头奖的瞬间——机器叮叮作响吐出所有硬币，你终于能享受冒险带来的果实。所以在某种程度上，半实现潜能的阶段（钱已投入机器却尚无回报，且不知能否有回报）比决定赌博前的时刻更煎熬。因为未下注时你本无损失。这就是为何在建立自信的旅程中取得进展却未达目标会如此艰难。

Right? And then realized potential would be the moment where you hit the jackpot and it goes ding ding ding, and the machine is spitting out all of those coins, and you get to enjoy the fruits of that risk that you took. So in some ways, half realized potential, the moment where you've put the money into the machine and you haven't gotten anything out yet, and you don't know if you're going to get anything out, is much harder than the moment before you decided to even gamble. Because before you decided to even gamble, you had nothing to lose. This is why it is so difficult to have made some progress in your confidence building journey, but to have not gotten to the point that you want to get to.

因为未来充满不确定性，随之而来的是对失望的真实恐惧。我发现一个有趣现象：很多人问我'杰丝，那些经历深刻蜕变与原地踏步的人有什么区别？'本质上他们是在问'实现全部潜能与未实现者有何不同？'在帮助众多女性发掘内在潜能后，我可以肯定地说，决定因素在于她们在半实现潜能阶段展现的韧性与耐力。我们如何应对不确定性、情绪波动、对事与愿违的恐惧，如何回应所有这些可怕感受——这些往往决定了我们能否冲过终点，实现全部潜能，最终对自身自信水平感到满意。

Because there's uncertainty about the future, and with that uncertainty comes a very real fear of disappointment. And something that I find really interesting is a lot of people ask me, Jess, what are the differences between people who have, like, a really deep transformation versus people who don't? And, basically, what they're asking me is what are the differences between people who realize that full potential and people who don't? And after now working with so many women to help them tap into a deeper ability within themselves, I can tell you with full certainty that the ingredient that helps people get to realized potential is the resilience and the endurance that they bring to the phase of their process where they are in half realized potential. The way that we navigate that uncertainty, the way that we navigate that emotional volatility, the way that we navigate our fears about things potentially not turning out the way that we want, the way that we respond to all of that scariness is often the factor that dictates whether we will cross that finish line and make it to our full potential and actually get to a point where we are happy with our level of self confidence.

我们会对自己的表现水平感到满意，感觉已倾尽所能。这场讨论中有个关键点：人们总忍不住想退回未实现潜能的状态。处于半实现阶段时，由于不确定性大、情绪波动剧烈——我们时而成功时而失败，偶有突破却又遭遇挫折提醒自己尚未达标。

We are happy with our level of performance. We feel like we are giving it everything that we truly have. And one thing that's really important as part of this discussion is the idea that there is a constant temptation to revert back into unrealized potential. When we have half realized potential, because it's uncertain, because it's emotionally volatile, right, we're experiencing some wins, but we're experiencing some fails. We have a breakthrough here and there, but then we have a struggle that reminds us that we're not where we wanna be yet.

对吧？正因为这种情绪波动和不确定性，人们极易想退回零风险零波动的未实现状态。我们会想：天啊这太难受了，展现真实的自己太难受了。有时我发声发言、主持会议、主动争取空间时效果极佳——

Right? So because of the emotional volatility, because of the uncertainty of that experience, there is enormous temptation to go back to unrealized potential where there are no stakes and there is no emotional volatility. Because we think to ourselves, wow, this is really uncomfortable. Putting myself out there is really uncomfortable. Sometimes when I share my voice and speak and lead a meeting and step up and take up space, it goes really, really well.

但有时却搞砸了，感觉糟透了。我不想再体验这种糟糕感受，干脆永远不再尝试就能永远避开痛苦。于是我们退回未实现潜能的领地，逃离波动与不确定。

And sometimes when I do it, it doesn't go well, and it feels really bad. I don't want it to feel bad. I don't wanna feel that bad feeling anymore. Let me just never do it so I never have to feel bad anymore. And then we move back into the land of unrealized potential so it gets us out of that volatility, out of that uncertainty.

在未实现潜能的世界里，我们拥有确定性——确定自己会永远停滞不前。尽管这通常不是我们内心深处的梦想，但大脑偏爱确定性。比起代表理想但不确定的陌生状态，大脑往往更倾向熟悉却非所愿的确定状态。人类常常会选择确定性而非梦想，因为不确定性对心智而言实在难以承受。

When we're in the land of unrealized potential, we have certainty. The certainty is that we are going to stay exactly where we are. And even though that's not often our bigger dream or the thing that we want deep inside, our mind prefers certainty. And our mind will often prefer something certain and familiar that is something that we don't actually want to something that is uncertain and unfamiliar, but represents the thing that we do actually want. We will choose certainty over our dreams very often because uncertainty is incredibly difficult for the human mind to tolerate.

当你将不确定性、情绪波动以及在寻找自我声音的旅程中必须面对的所有感受结合起来时。无论你多么完美，多么出色，多么专注，在这条寻找自我声音的道路上，你都会经历不适感。你会感到脆弱，会有脆弱感过载的时刻，会有尴尬的瞬间。

And then you combine uncertainty with emotional volatility and all the feelings that you have to feel on the journey of finding your voice. On the journey of finding your voice, no matter how perfect you are, no matter how amazing you are, no matter how dedicated you are, you will feel uncomfortable feelings. You will feel vulnerable. You will have vulnerability hangovers. You will have moments of embarrassment.

你会有后悔的时刻。这很正常。这是过程的一部分。很多时候，我们以为产生这些感受是因为自身出了问题。其实不然。

You will have moments of regret. This is normal. This is part of the process. A lot of times, we think we're having these feelings because something is wrong with us. No.

不，不是的。那些拥有强大自信、身处重要领导职位的人，他们能够承受所有这些感受。这正是他们能够成就事业的原因。这些感受都是正常的。

No. No. Like, people who have big confidence and are in big leadership positions can tolerate all of those feelings. That's how they're able to do what they're doing. These feelings are normal.

但当我们经历这些强烈感受时，可能会对自己说：我不想继续尝试了，不想坚持了，不想再逼迫自己承受这些糟糕感受了。让我退回那个未实现潜能的舒适区吧。虽然潜意识里我们知道，自己还有更多可能性。

But when we experience these feelings, because they feel so intense, we might think to ourselves, I don't want to keep trying. I don't wanna keep going. I don't wanna keep pushing myself and then having to feel these bad feelings. Let me just revert back to the land of unrealized potential. And we might know on some level that we have more inside us.

因此当我们退回未实现潜能的领域时，可能会感到认知失调——因为我们心知肚明自己并非真的做不到，只是选择退回舒适区来逃避那些波动。但与此同时，内心又会开始躁动不安，因为我们清楚自己值得更多。我认为关键在于：要实现全部潜能，就必须在'半实现潜能'的状态中坚持足够长时间，直到取得那些能带来持久改变的突破性进展——包括自我认知的根本转变和内在能力的真正强化。这场游戏的本质，就是要在'半实现潜能'的阶段持续奋斗，直到新的自我认知和内在感受成为你人格中不可分割的部分。你可能在某些生活领域已经历过这种转变。

So we might experience dissonance when we revert back into the land of unrealized potential because now we know it's not really true that we can't do it, but we're just choosing to revert back there because it's a bit more comfortable and we don't have to deal with all that volatility. But there will also be a part of us that will begin to feel restless and begin to feel agitated because we know that there is more for us. So the way I think about it is getting to the land of fully realized potential requires you to endure and stay in the land of half realized potential long enough to have bigger, more significant breakthroughs that lead to lasting permanent change in how you feel about yourself and how strong and capable you feel internally. And the name of the game is to keep fighting through that phase of half realized potential until some of the change in how you see yourself and how you feel inside and how you feel about yourself becomes more permanently lodged within you and your personality. And you've probably experienced this in certain areas of your life.

你生命中或许有些领域曾经历波动期——那时你尚未掌握相关技能或处境，但通过足够长时间的坚持，最终使那种能力成为你永恒的一部分。就像我的许多客户，他们职业生涯初期觉得困难到荒谬、害怕到可笑的事情，如今已不再令他们畏惧。这正是因为他们坚持够久，直到那些挑战成为他们游刃有余的日常。而现在你们职业生涯所处的新阶段，不过是面临着更宏大的目标。

You might have had areas of your life where there was a period of volatility where you hadn't yet mastered that situation or that skill, but you stuck with it long enough that eventually your competence in that area became permanent. And you got to a point where you're just not gonna struggle with it anymore the way that you used to. And for so many of my clients, a great example of that is some of the things that they used to do at the very beginning of their career that felt ridiculously hard and that felt ridiculously scary that no longer feel hard and scary to them. Well, that's in part because they stuck through that experience long enough for it to start to feel like something that they know how to do, like something that's a part of them. And now where you are in your career at this moment in time, you just have bigger goals.

你们有了新目标，更宏大的目标，这要求你们再次进入'半实现潜能'的领域，以便永久突破到更高层次的能力水平。这正是我与客户共同开展的工作，也是我坚持设计长期课程的根本原因——因为只有给予足够时间，才能促成从'半实现潜能'到'完全实现潜能'的实质性突破。这场游戏的终极要义，就是在'半实现潜能'的状态中坚持足够久，直到那些成长的微光和成功的瞬间逐渐变得稳定而永恒。

You have new goals. You have bigger goals that require you to be in that land of half realized potential once again so that you can permanently break through to that next level of competence and that next level of skill. And that is the work that I am doing with my clients. This is the singular reason why I do longer programs, why I prefer to work with people for longer periods of time because a longer period of time gives enough time to have bigger breakthroughs that move you from half realized potential to realized potential. But the name of the game here is to stay in the game of half realized potential long enough for some of those glimmers of growth and moments of success to become more consistent and more permanent.

当然，正如我提到的，这具有挑战性。身处那个既有成功又有失败的混乱中间地带是艰难的。因为成功固然令人欣喜振奋，失败却可能带来强烈的挫败感、失望与冲击。有时，人们宁愿完全不去尝试，停留在未实现潜力的安全区，以避免这种情绪起伏的剧烈波动。作为本期内容的延续，我想在下期节目中分享一些技巧，帮助你在半实现潜力的状态中坚持下去，并推动你在成长道路上继续前行。

And, of course, like I mentioned, this is challenging. It's challenging to be in that messy middle where we're experiencing some successes and some failures. Because while the successes feel really good and exciting, the failures can feel really frustrating and disappointing and jarring. And sometimes, it's easier to just not go for it at all and stay in the land of unrealized potential to avoid the intensity of those emotional swings and of those ups and downs. And what I wanna do as a continuation to this episode is I wanna share with you, and I'm gonna do this in the episode that follows, some tips to help you stick it out in the land of half realized potential and some tips to help you continue to push forward in your growth process.

因为我发现，当我们在半实现潜力的领域时，若拥有正确的工具、支持、视角和方法，就能显著增加我们在成长过程中坚持足够久、最终迎来重大突破的概率。持续前进、日复一日地迈步向前绝对值得——当你走出混乱的中间地带，真正建立起更深层、更持久的自信时，你的整个职业生涯和生活都将变得无比美好。你会获得强烈的内在满足感，因为内心会感到强大而充满力量。

Because what I have found is that if we have the right tools, the right support, the right perspective, the right approach when we're in the land of half realized potential, it increases the odds that we will stay in our growth process long enough to experience significant breakthrough. And it is so worth it to keep going, to keep pushing, to keep just putting one foot in front of the other day after day. Because when you get out of that messy middle and you really start to click into a deeper, more permanent level of self confidence, your entire career and your entire life gets so much better. You experience a lot of internal satisfaction because internally you feel strong. You feel capable.

你会感到无所不能。而事实上，你曾在半实现潜力的领域中经历起伏，置身于情绪动荡的混乱中间地带——这段经历本身就会让你感到无比强大。知道自己熬过了那些时刻、最终穿越了困境，会让你感到该死的坚强和坚韧。这种力量、韧性和自信不仅带来自我满足与骄傲，更赋予你追求最重要目标与梦想的能力。

You feel like nothing can stop you. And by the way, the fact that you have had those ups and downs in the land of half realized potential and you've been in that emotionally volatile messy middle, that fact alone will make you feel so powerful. Knowing that you endured that, knowing that you got to the other end of that will make you feel so mother effing strong and resilient. And that strength, that resilience, that confidence makes you feel satisfied. It makes you feel proud of yourself, but it also equips you to go after the goals and dreams that matter most to you.

它使你具备领导力，让你能在更大舞台上发声，为你提供追求更高领导职位所需的内心稳固与自信，让你能够承担更多责任、应对更高风险。因此，当你坚持突破、持续在成长道路上奋进时，你既会获得自我认同的内在奖赏，又能实现目标的外在成就。对我个人而言，这是最有满足感的良性循环之一，我知道我的许多客户也深有同感。

It equips you to lead. It equips you to use your voice on a bigger level. It equips you to have the internal sturdiness and confidence necessary to pursue bigger leadership roles and to be responsible for more and to take on more and to be able to handle higher stakes. So when you push through and you don't turn back and you keep on forging ahead in your growth process, you get the internal reward of feeling amazing about yourself and the external reward of bringing your goals to life. And for me personally, this is one of the most satisfying cycles that I have experienced, and I know so many of my clients feel the same way.

那种拥有一个暂时无法实现的目标的感觉很奇妙——因为你尚未成长为足够自信、熟练和强大的那个版本自己。然后通过内在修炼成为那个人，在半实现潜力的领域坚持足够久，最终让梦想成真。这就像获得双重胜利、双重蜕变：通过努力内在变得更强，同时理想也化为现实。无论这个目标是拥有掷地有声的话语权、担任高管角色、更高层级的领导力，还是获得周围人的由衷钦佩。

It feels so good to have a goal that you can't attain because you haven't yet become the version of you who is confident and skilled and powerful enough to attain it. And then to do the inner work to become that person and to stay in the land of half realized potential long enough to become the person who can make that dream a reality and then to actually make it a reality. It's like you get this double win, this double transformation. You became stronger inside through doing the work, and also the thing that you wanted is now in your reality. Whether the thing that you wanted is to have a strong voice in the room, to be in an executive role, to be leading at a higher level, to be really admired by the people around you.

但我们既获得内在奖赏与蜕变，也收获外在成就与转变。这就是为什么这份努力如此值得，也是我如此热爱并热衷于此的原因。正如所说，我将用具体建议跟进本期内容，帮助你在艰难时刻坚持进程、持续奋斗、保持前行。因为说到底，正是这种坚持决定了你能否实现那些最重要的目标与梦想。

But we get that internal reward, the internal transformation, and the external reward, the external transformation. This is why it's worth it to do the work. This is why I love doing this work, and I feel so passionately about it. And like I said, I'm gonna follow-up this episode with some tips and advice to help you stay in your process, to help you keep fighting through on the hard days, and to help you keep putting one foot in front of the other. Because truly, that is the one thing that is going to make the difference when it comes to whether or not you accomplish the goals and dreams that matter most to you.

我迫不及待想继续探讨这个话题。若你对此有共鸣，请联系我——我会在节目备注中留下邮箱和联系方式。如果你想与我合作，让我支持你走出半实现潜力地带、释放全部潜能，通过必要的内在修炼建立稳固自信，我十分乐意在「勇敢发声学院」为你提供帮助。请标记你的日历：申请通道将于3月10日星期一开放。

I cannot wait to keep digging into this topic. And if this resonated with you, please reach out to me. I will put my email and my contact information in the show notes. And if you wanna work with me and you want me to support you in getting out of the land of half realized potential and realizing your full potential and really sticking with it and doing the inner work that you need to do to get that confidence to click into place and feel more permanent, I would love to help you with that in the art of speaking up academy. And mark your calendar because applications will open Monday, March 10.

正如我在本期节目开头提到的，在‘勇敢发声学院’中，我支持你进行内在修炼，建立坚实持久的自信，充分发掘自身潜力。同时，我也为你提供所需的专业发展培训，让你在职场中拥有强大高效的表达能力和高管风范，从而最大化你作为领导者的影响力。我非常激动地宣布申请通道即将开启，节目备注中会附上学院详情链接，如有疑问欢迎随时联系我。衷心感谢你收听本期节目。

Like I mentioned in the beginning of today's episode, in the Art of Speaking Up Academy, I support you in doing the inner work of building that sturdy, lasting confidence, the inner work of realizing your full potential. And I also offer you the professional development training you need to have a powerful and effective voice and executive presence in the room so that you can maximize your impact as a leader. I am so excited to open applications. I will drop the link to learn more about the art of speaking up academy in the show notes, and please feel free to reach out to me if you have questions. Thank you so much for tuning in to today's episode.

我迫不及待想继续探讨这个话题，我们下期节目再见。拜拜。

I can't wait to talk more about this, and I'll catch you in the next one. Bye.