如何寻找导师

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我每日持续更新，您定会爱上这些内容。最后但同样重要的是，若您正寻求教练指导，希望借助专业辅导让2017年成为人生巅峰之年、实现阶层跃迁、完成重大转变，现在就可预约我的咨询时段。这种预约并非闲聊，而是针对团体辅导或一对一辅导的深度探讨——如果您想了解具体细节，请立即访问mwfmotivation.com/schedule预约。

I'm putting up stuff daily, and you'll love it. And last but not least, if you are looking for coaching and you think that you might need some extra coaching in order to make 2017 the best year of your life, in order to take your life to the next level, in order to make some freaking changes, you can actually book time in my schedule right now. I don't know how long I'm gonna do this for, but this is not to have like a conversation just chitchat. This is to talk about if you have questions of group coaching, if you wanna know what group coaching or one on one coaching is and you wanna know the details, you can actually book time in my schedule right now. Go to mwfmotivation.com/schedule, and you can actually book some time in my schedule.

再次强调：mwfmotivation.com/schedule，若尚有名额，我们可以探讨团体或一对一辅导事宜。不过不必只听我的一面之词——毕竟我有立场偏见。现在请听听团体成员的真实评价。

So once again, mwfmotivation.com/schedule, and we can talk about group coaching or one on one coaching if there happens to be any spots left available in that. But don't take my word for the group coaching and the fact that I think it's good because obviously I'm biased. Listen to someone who's part of the group right here.

大家好，我是纽约的布雷特·戈尔茨坦。想特别感谢罗伯——参加他的一对一辅导项目一个半月以来，能有人共同制定策略并督促我兑现承诺，这种价值无法估量。兄弟继续加油，与你合作非常愉快。

Hey, everybody. It's Brett Goldstein from New York. Just wanted to give Rob a huge shout out. I've been working with him on the one on one coaching program for about a month and a half now, and I have to say it's really been amazing to have somebody to be able to strategize with and hold you accountable to the things you say you're gonna do has been invaluable. So keep up the great work buddy, and I really love working with you.

欢迎回到今日节目。我们将探讨导师话题：何为导师？为何需要导师？是否该付费聘请导师？以及导师的真正意义与价值。

Welcome to today's episode. Today we're gonna be talking about mentors. What is a mentor? Why you wanna find a mentor? And also if you should pay for a mentor and really what a mentor is and what it'll do for you.

首先，导师是什么？他们或是人生阅历更丰富的前辈，或是虽年轻但精通某项你渴望掌握的技能/领域。本质上，导师就是领先于你的引路人——能缩短你的学习曲线，助你更轻松达成目标。以我为例，我拥有多位长期导师。

So what is a mentor? First off, it's somebody who's either further along in life than you, or they could also be someone who's younger than you, but they have a specific skillset or something that they're further along in a business that you want to get good at. A mentor is someone who is just further along than you are. There's somebody who will shorten your learning curve and make it easier for you to be successful at whatever it is. It could be, for instance, I've had mentors for years.

19岁时，我以每月500美元聘请首位导师，他教会我如何以经营企业的方式自我管理，使我的年收入从1.7万美元跃升至17.7万美元（仅用一年半）。这段指导关系不仅带来即时收益，更在过去十余年间为我创造数百万美元价值。导师不仅限于商业领域——比如您可以寻找婚姻幸福的伴侣作为关系导师。

My very first mentor when I was 19 years old, I paid $500 a month to have a mentor that taught me how to get good at becoming number one, treating myself like I was running a business and got me better at my business and took me from making $17,000 a year to within a year and a half of coaching with him to making $177,000 per year. So that person has not only made me money in that aspect, but man, they've made me money millions of dollars over the past ten years, eleven years, twelve years since I originally started coaching with him. So mentors are extremely, extremely beneficial and they don't have to be just for business. They don't have to be just for money. It could be that you could find someone who has a really good relationship, a really good marriage, and you and your wife, or you and your husband start hanging out with them more.

导师可以覆盖所有领域：我有吉他导师、声乐导师、电脑录音软件导师；有健身塑形导师、饮食营养导师；还有商业成就和心理境界都远超我的榜样——他们更快乐、更健康、更专注，这正是我向往的状态。

And they could be mentors as far as a relationship goes. So mentors can be for everything. I have mentors that teach me guitar. I have mentors that teach me vocal lessons for singing. I have mentors that teach me a recording program that's on my computer.

简言之，导师就是在某方面领先于你的人。

I have mentors. I have a mentor for physical, for working out, for dieting, for all of those things. And then I have mentors that are further along than me in business. I have mentors that are further along than me in just psychology and they just keep me, you know, they're happier, they're healthier, they're more on point than I am, and I want to be around those people. So a mentor is just somebody who is further along than you are.

那么，为什么你需要一位导师呢？原因多种多样。首要的是，这些人将成为你最重要的五人圈成员。或许你们不常碰面，但你知道最常相处的五人会深刻影响你——若你身边有五个酒鬼，你很可能成为第六个；若围绕五个百万富翁，你也极可能成为第六位。

Now, why would you want to have a mentor? There's a ton of different reasons. Number one, these people are going to be in your top five. There's someone that you might not hang out with as much, but you know the five people that you hang out with the most is going to be, if you hang out with five alcoholics, you're probably going to be the six. If you hang out with five millionaires, you're probably going to be the six as well.

因此，慎重选择日常交往对象至关重要。导师的首要作用是提升你的格局。我每年会与几位身价超十亿的人短暂相处几次。当你接触这种思维与商业能力层级的人时，他们会迫使你突破自我局限，每次相处都能让你变得更好。

So it's extremely important to think of the people that you hang out with the most. So the first thing that mentors will do is they will make you up your game. When you hang out with somebody who is I have a couple people that I don't spend a ton of time with, but a few times a year that are worth over a billion dollars. When you hang out with somebody who's in that realm of just mental capacity and business capacity, it makes you up your game. It makes you become better whenever you're around those people.

目睹他们的成就与拥有之物时，你会反思：'或许我的梦想太过渺小'——这展现了人类潜能的无限可能。拥有这样的导师能彻底提升你的竞技状态。正如所言，提升格局是其一。另一关键是他们能塑造正确心态：这类人或许每周或数月才见一次，但他们能通过截然不同的思维方式重塑你的认知。

When you see the stuff they do or the stuff they have, it also makes you go, man, maybe I'm dreaming a little bit small if this shows you human potential. And so it completely makes you up your game by having them. So like I said, upping your game is one of them. Also another thing that you have to think about is it puts you in the right frame of mind, right? They're the type of person who you might hang out with every single week, or you might hang out with them every couple months, but they put you in the right frame of mind by, you you might be able to listen to them talk about something that they think completely different than you.

某些你视为消极的事物，他们可能帮你转化为机遇。真正的导师能扭转你的思维模式，这种被挑战的过程极具价值。另一益处是促使行动力：与导师相处时，即便他们不直接要求，你也会因不愿成为'光说不做'的人而主动落实——下次见面时若被问及进展却无成果，这种问责机制将推动你行动。

Or you might have something that could seem as a negative and they might be able to find an opportunity for it to actually be positive for you. So there's someone who can take your mindset and really make you think in a different way. And that's always a good thing is to have someone challenge you and to make you think in a different way. Another thing that's really good about having a mentor is being around them is it makes you take action. Being around them, whether they tell you to take action and you want to be held accountable because you don't wanna be the person that tells them the story, a mentor, a story about something and they say, hey, here's what I think you should do And you don't do it.

他们能助你正确决策，因其经历过相似困境。你可以询问：'我正面临这种情况，该如何处理？'导师会给出'我当时这样做'的建议。拥有导师的最大意义在于节省时间精力——长远来看还能增加收入。如我之前从1.7万到17.7万美元的收入飞跃，正是十倍增长的实证。

And the next time you talk to them, they ask you about it and you don't have it done. It makes you take action because it is an extra level of accountability of someone who's gonna be holding you accountable to your goals, what you want, and what you say you want to do as well. They help you make the right decisions because you can ask them. They could have been through what you've already been through. And so you could say, Hey, here's what I'm dealing with.

本质上，导师既节省时间精力，又创造财富增值。稍后会详述这点，但节省时间精力的逻辑在于：与其在生活、商业或财务中试错，不如向过来人取经——他们可能领先你十到二十年，一次谈话就能节省你两三年光阴，这正是寻求导师的核心价值。

What should I do? And that mentor will be able to say, Hey, here's what I would do. Or here's what I did do when I was in your situation. And they help you make the right decisions. One of the biggest reasons why you want to have a mentor is they help you save time and energy.

他们不仅推动你前进，更能保持你的动力。与顶尖成功者相处时，你会被激发出匹配其成就的渴望。比如与亿万富翁共度周末后，目睹其生活状态，周一归来时我的工作动力总会倍增。另一不可忽视的是：导师会向你敞开其人脉圈——这极其重要。

And in reality, they also make you more money in the long run. Like I told you before, I went from making 17,000 to 177,000 by having this mentor. That's 10 times my income. So not only should they save me time and energy, they should make me more money. And I'll talk about that a little bit later, but saving time and energy is this.

当你与成功导师建立关系时，他们交往的对象自然也是顶尖人士。随着好感度提升，他们可能邀请你共进晚餐，使你接触到更多成功者。此外，导师掌握的秘诀同样极具价值——这些我们稍后探讨。

Instead of going out and failing and making mistakes and going through life or business or finances with trial and error, you get to talk to these people who have already been through what you've been through. They might be ten, fifteen, twenty years down the road further than you are. And by having one conversation with them could save you two or three years. That's a huge deal of why you wanna go out and find mentors. Also what happens is they push you, but also maintain your motivation.

成功者的社交圈往往由同类组成。当导师开始欣赏你时，会自然引荐你进入其圈子——'我们要聚餐，一起来吧'这样的机会将为你打开新世界。最后不得不提的是，导师掌握的独门诀窍才是真正的宝藏。

This is one thing, when you're around somebody who's super successful, you get motivated to be as successful for them, as them. Like I told you, if I hang out with someone who's a billionaire, I'm going to be much more motivated when I come back on Monday after hanging out from them on the weekend and see all of the stuff that they have or all of the fun that they have or the trips that they take or the life that they have, it motivates me to start doing more work than I already do. Another thing that you have to think about as well is a mentor also opens you up to their circle of friends. This is big, this is really big to think about. When you become friends with, or you have a mentor who's successful, guess who they hang out with?

关于导师的另一大优势在于他们掌握的秘诀——这才是真正珍贵的部分。

Other extremely successful people. So there's a chance that when they start liking you, they start hanging out with you more than they think, hey, we're gonna go out and we're gonna go get some dinner. You should come with us. It opens you up to more people who are successful as well. Also, thing that's really good about mentors is their secrets, right?

如果有人是百万富翁或亿万富翁，他们在商业上有秘诀，在生活中有秘诀，在幸福、财务等各方面都有秘诀。如果他们喜欢你，就会向你透露这些秘诀，这也能让你更快进步。总之，导师的真正作用是让你学得更快。

If someone's a millionaire or a billionaire, they have secrets in business. They have secrets in life. They have secrets in happiness and finances and all of these things. If they like you, they will open you up to their secrets, which will make you go further along as well. All in all, what a mentor really does is it makes you learn faster.

它能缩短你的学习曲线。现在你可能会问，这听起来很棒，但我该如何找到导师呢？有几种方法。第一，你可以尝试找免费的导师，这是大多数人的选择，因为大多数人都不愿花钱。

It shortens your learning curve. Now, you might be asking, that sounds really great. How do I find a mentor? Well, there's a couple different ways. Number one, you could try to find a free mentor, which is what most people do because most people are cheap.

尽管他们嘴上说在乎自己的成功，但实际上并没有想象中那么在乎。所以他们选择最便宜的方式。比如，他们愿意每月花500美元买新车、付电话费，却不愿花同样的钱和百万富翁交流。这不合逻辑，但免费的方式确实存在。

And even though they say they care about their success, they don't really care about their success as much as they think they do. So they go super cheap. Know, they'll spend $500 a month on a brand new car and phone bills and all of these things, but they won't spend $500 a month to talk to a millionaire. Right? It doesn't make any sense, but let me say this, there's free.

如果你想，确实可以找到免费导师。免费和付费各有优劣。但要找到比你更资深的人——无论是找当前免费的，还是未来可能转为付费的导师——你必须先主动走出去。这是找导师的第一步：你必须建立人脉。

You could get free if you wanted to. And there's pros and cons to free and paid. But the way you find someone who's further along than you are, if you wanna find someone who's free or someone who's free right now, who might turn into a paid mentor, is you have to get yourself out there. That's the first step to finding a mentor. You have to do networking.

我个人讨厌参加社交活动，但仍强迫自己去，因为我知道那里有比我更优秀的人。如何找到他们？你可以上Meetup.com搜索本地活动，或用Google查找。

I personally hate going to networking events, but I force myself to go to them because I know there's people out there that are way more advanced than I am that are really good at what they do, and I could try to build a relationship with them. So how do you find them? You can go to meetup.com. You could search your area. You could go on Google.

也可以上Facebook，方法很多。但关键在于主动接触外界。当然，你也可以直接付费聘请导师。

You could go on Facebook. There's a bunch of different ways. But in order to find somebody, you have to put yourself out there. You have to have to put yourself out there. You could also pay for a mentor as well.

两种方式各有利弊。免费导师的好处显而易见——免费。而付费导师的好处在于，对方会为你的成功负责。这一点很多人没想到。所谓的免费导师，更像是半朋友半熟人的关系，他们不会为你的成败担责。

And so there's pros and cons to both. The pros of a free mentor, free, obviously, right? The pros of a paid mentor is that that person feels accountable for your success. And this is what most people don't think about. When someone's a free mentor, quote unquote free mentor, to be kind of just like a semi friend or acquaintance, they don't feel liable for your success.

但付费导师不同。如果你是付费客户，合格的导师会确保你获得成果——这是他们的责任底线。好的导师会更努力，给你更多时间。

They don't feel like you have to succeed or it's their fault. When you have a paid mentor, they have the extra level of accountability of making sure in their head, if you're paying them, if they're a good mentor, they better fricking make sure you get some results. And that's how you have to think about it. They need to make sure you get results. And in their head, if they're a good person, they're going to work harder and they're gonna give you more time.

他们会及时回复短信邮件，更频繁地与你交流。这就是付费导师的优势。那付费导师的缺点呢？

They're gonna answer your text messages. They're gonna answer your emails. They're gonna talk to you more often. And that's the benefit of a paid mentor. What's the cons of a paid mentor?

正如我刚才所说，免费导师不会手把手督促你。付费导师的缺点？就是要花钱。简而言之：免费导师不花钱，但缺乏那种多数人真正需要的、推动你前进的问责机制。

Exactly like I said, they're not gonna hold your hand and hold you accountable. What's the cons of a paid mentor? The fact that you have to pay money. That's basically it of it. So the pros and cons, a free mentor is free, but they're not gonna be on top of you and making sure you get things done in that extra level of accountability that most people really need.

付费导师的利弊在于，这位付费导师会确保你取得成功。他们觉得对你的成果负有责任。所以如果你没有达到应有的成功水平，没有赚到应有的收入，他们会为你投入更多时间。我的第一位导师每月收费500美元，他曾告诉我，通过我的指导，我应该让你赚更多钱。所以你必须从这个角度去思考。

The pros and cons of a paid mentor is that this paid mentor is going to make sure you are successful. They feel liable for your accountability. So if you're not succeeding at the level that you should be, if you're not making money at the level you should be, they're going to put more time into you. One thing that my first mentor and I paid $500 a month for them told me is that by coaching with me, I should make you more money. And so you have to think about it that way.

如果你每月支付500、600或700美元，你应该能赚回这笔钱。但关键在于，你不会立即收回成本。六个月后，你应该开始回本；一年后，你应该能赚回这笔钱；两年后，他们对你思维模式和日常习惯的改造，将百分之百让你收回投资。

If you're paying $500 or 600 or $700 a month, you should be making that money back. And now here's the thing, you won't make that money back right away. In six months down the road, should be making that money. In a year, you should be making that money. Two years down the road, the shifting that they're going to do inside of your mind, inside of your daily habits will make you that money back 100%.

我19岁时的第一位教练彻底震撼了我的世界，改变了我的生活、日常习惯和一切。如今十一年过去，十二年过去，我的生活和我本人已与当初判若两人。回报不会立竿见影，但如果是优秀的导师，这种改变将体现在你日常生活的方方面面。这就是导师的意义、拥有导师的好处以及如何找到导师。总之，这非常重要。

My first coach when I was 19 years old, rocked my freaking world, changed my life, changed my daily habits, changed everything, which eleven years down the road now, twelve years down the road now, my life, I'm a completely different person than I would be. So it's not gonna pay off right away, but if they're a good mentor, it will completely pay off in the way that you live your life on a day to day basis. So, that's what a mentor is. That's the benefits of having a mentor and that's how to find a mentor. So all in all, this is important.

主动走出去，与比你优秀的人为伍，与能督促你负责的人为伍，与能拓展你思维的人为伍，自然而然地，你就会开始改变生活中的方方面面。

Put yourself out there, be around people who are better, be around people who will hold you accountable and be around people who make you think bigger and naturally you will start to change stuff in your life.

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